Duggars expecting child #19

Seeing a our children's irresponsibility and pulling them back to practice things correctly for a time is very appropriate.

 

I guess we qualify. My wife and I have had 11 children.

As they were growing up they each were given work assignments, (individually and group). The older took care of the much of the younger's needs. We had an 80 acre farm in the State of Maine and raised much of our own food. Cut wood off our land for heating the house.

We were/are a happy healthy family. My kids loved the outdoors, skating, sledding, fishing, hunting. When we moved from the State our family doctor said that even as big as we were, we were one of the few families he had served that apart from a case of appendicitis, hadn't had a family trauma or tragedy (Thank You Lord!).

Tending to the farm crops (including making Maple Syrup) and animals (feeding chickens, goats, pigs, gathering eggs, milking cow and goats, etc) were areas of complaint with plenty of sibling rivalries but now when we get together with the kids and grandkids they happily reminisce for hours about "the good ole days", going through the picture albums.

When Christian people were bold enough to tell us we had to many kids, we would ask "which ones should we send back?".

No, we are not perfect.
No, we are not "quiverfull".

HankD

 

The statement "No, we are not 'quiverfull' is a crux. The Duggar's adhere strictly to the scriptural perversion of the quiverfull movement. You do not. The duggers also abuse their parental authority in regards to their adult children. You do not.

 

No evidence of that. It is simply not factual

 

Been over that. They forbid their adult daughters from leaving the house until they are married. They forbid their daughters from attending college. They forbid their daughters from leaving the home to attend college. That's an abuse of parental authority.

 

No it isn't and there is no logic to support that.

 

Yes it is, and it's logical.

Any parent that forbids his adult child from leaving home has got a screw loose. Any parent that forbids his adult child from attending college has got more than one screw loose.

 

Simply using the term "adult child" does nothing to support your position nor does it work to incriminate the Duggars. And of course suggesting they have a "Screw loose" only shows your irrational disregard for certain family values.

 

In this heartwarming clip, Jim Bob has Mrs. Jim Bob shave his neck between contractions as he needs to "freshen up" for the trip to the hospital.

 

You are correct John.

Most of our kids were out the door on or shortly after their 18th birthday.
We didn't try to stop them, we would give advice if we were bothered by a less than thought out departure or our blessing if we were pleased.

We reluctantly "liberated" one of our sons when he was 17 so he could join the service. He turned out fine, finished highschool (GED) and went on to college after finishing his tour in the Navy.

We always warmly welcomed back (temporarily) those whose less than thoughtful departure failed to produce their concept of "freedom" and helped them to achieve real independence.

HankD

 

Sure it does. Adult children are adults. Any parent who inflicts his will over another adult is abusing parental authority. Doesn't matter if it's the Duggers or anyone else. This isn't a matter of "my house my rules, if you dont' like it you can leave", it's a matter of "my house my rules, and you're not allowed to leave the house even though you're over 18".

If a parent forbids one of their children who is over 18 from attending college, and claims to do so under the banner of familiy values, that parent is perverting the sanctity of family values, not to mention, that parent definitely has his priorities screwed up.

 

No proof here

How is it perverting?

 

Many of the posts here are quite humorous...or sad...I haven't decided which.

I need lots of help from God in raising my own kids. I'm not ready to offer judgement on all the "shortcomings" of every parent I ever encounter.

 

We're never supposed to stop being parents. No argument there. But what the Duggars are doing with their adult children is they're abusing the parental role. Forbidding an adult child from leaving the home, or forbidding them from attending college, how can anyone consider that responsible parenting?

??? No proof? Are you saying saying the duggars aren't forbidding their adult female children from leaving moving away from home, or are not forbidding them from going to college?

Are you saying that it's perfectly permissible, or even responsible for a parent to forbid their adult children (that is, children over 18) from going to college?