Internet "Dating" Sites

Internet dating sites received a bad rap when they first came on the scene. However, they are becoming more and more acceptable in an age where almost all of a person's socializing is done online (facebook anyone? (baptistboard anyone?)).

The problem inherent with dating websites, as well as the internet as a whole, is that people tend to be different online than they are in person. They hide behind the anonymity of the internet, and put forth their best foot. Also, since there is a delay between people interacting, it is easier to keep up a facade than if you were in person.

I do not condemn dating sites by any stretch of the imagination. However, I strongly caution anyone using them against making an emotional connection with anyone they have not met with in person, and spent time with in person. (Think Cyrano de Bergerac!)

 

Internet dating can be fatal. There was a woman who "met" a man on simple bingo program in 2000. He came to her house in Texas and killed her. Yes, he was caught and convicted, but the woman remains dead.

Beware of even innocent sites, like the BB.

Cheers,

Jim

 

Real life dating can be fatal. There was a woman who met a man at a local bingo game in 2001. He came to her house in Alabama and killed her.

 

I suppose they can be just fine if one is very cautious. I did a story on them once so my poor hubby got to watch me go onto dating sites. HA! I'd have to say that the sites themselves seem okay, but a lot of those people scare me! Yeah, the Christian way to find a date is to talk about how much you like BUBBLE BATHS! With all these people considering bubble baths as their favorite thing to do, it's a wonder the stores can keep it stocked. LOL

And Christian means anything on those sites. LDS, Baptist, JW, Catholic, or even "I remember going to church once on Christmas when I was three."

And I agree about being careful even on the BB. Will never forget how one latched onto a friend I brought here and dragged her down into his nasty sinful life, all the while posting and sounding holy and righteous.

Then there's the true crazy people of the BB. I always said that if I ever remarried, it would be to a somewhat balding guy in his forties (there seriously is something about that age and look that is VERY attractive!) and out he popped and here we are married.

He hasn't killed me yet. He still might though. I'm always leaving him dishes to wash. I'll let you know if he does, but so far, so good. Best thing that ever happened to me, but then again, it's all fine and dandy until they start feeling stabby. :smilewinkgrin:

 

We have a couple in our church who met on eharmony. He is very shy and quiet. They have been married a few years now and seem very happy together.

 

I do not believe the Bible says anything about the Internet. Now a better question would be if you were single would you use the Internet to find a "friend"?

I would not!

 

I have been on a list for maybe 15 years with members all over the world. I have a half dozen eyeball to eyeball, all first class humans. Unlike BB and the big theology list, none of us have an axe to grind.

 

I know one couple who met online and are very happily married expecting their sixth child. Then I have a girlfriend who didn't have a very good experience. The man she dated was fine - very nice and nothing wrong with him, but their relationship kind of went nowhere. I think they had different expectations and wanted to move at different paces and it all wasn't very clearly expressed by either side. After they broke up she ended up meeting somebody at church and is now happily married. No matter what, ALWAYS be careful and never meet the first time alone with the other person and always meet in a public place til you know what's what.