Featured When should Baptists get married?

What is the Baptist hangup over dancing...even with one's own wife? Never understood that one.

 

Playing cards, too...

 

Or having a beer:laugh:

I dance....been dancing at polka parties since I was 2 yo. I met my wife on a dance floor and I dance at weddings.:smilewinkgrin:

Oh, that's right -- I was raised a catholic and a Yankee....so I'm a reprobate right!:laugh:

 

The beer or the dancing? Up here its the heroin we object to. We would gladly accept the beer and dancing, "with open arms.":smilewinkgrin:

 

Beer leads to a good and healthy bladder release and maybe some restfull sleep. Heroin on the other hand leads to eternal sleep.....especially when taken with alcohol. So don't do that unless you have a death wish.

 

It is better to get married before you have children.

 

Keys to a happy marriage....


"yes, dear"
"here's my check, dear"
"boy, you look awful purty in all, dear"
"here's the remote, dear"
"I'm sorry, dear"
"you were right, dear"
"have you lost weight, dear?"


Keys to divorce....

"hey Sally"...your wife's name is "Nancy"
"you having went to the dentist sure brightened your smile"...after a tooth extraction
"did your blouse shrink?"
"did you cover your gray hair?"
"I didn't know your mouth was that big"...after her yawning
"Humph, I didn't think you'd sprain your ankle and them being thick like that"...read that in a newspaper comicstrip

 

Sure.

Baptists should never marry. Each other...

 

Obviously, a certain level of maturity and meeting the right one are important.

But from the female point of view, something to consider is fertility. It drops off fairly quickly as we age. If having offspring is really important to a gal, she might want to drop the whole idea of waiting until she finishes college AND is well settled in her career. She could marry right out of college.

 

Why would this be any different for baptists specifically?

 

It would be REALLY dumb to do this in this country if you are already with who you know you will marry. If you are married and have low incomes and are going to school, you get all kinds of federal financial help. Otherwise you get to claim your parents incomes, which more often than not means you get to rack up tons of student loans, of which nowadays can easily approach the 6 digit realm even for in-state undergraduate degrees if you don't have significant help coming in from elsewhere. Now, multiply that by two if you are both going to college. So basically when you get out and THEN you get married, you immediately have the equivalent of a very expensive house payment, for 30 years. Except you don't have a house to show for it. It is a horrible way to start off.

 

My wife is a divorce attorney so I've seen a thing or two. I can tell you right now that this is not the top items. Stress due to financial issues and extramarital affairs top the charts by far. Many couples cannot manage money at all nowadays and they end up with $40,000 in credit card debt or something, things tend to fall apart at that point. Cheating is a huge problem as well and they eventually get caught, I've even seen people have gay lovers on the side.


As for your list:

1. from what I've seen, if age has anything to do with it, the older couples tend to divorce more often. You get two people who are at least into their late 30's or older and the chance they will get a divorce is very high. People get set in their ways and crankier the older they get so pet peeves about their partner tends to get to them much more than if they had been with this person since they were 20 years old and things fall apart within a year. Lots of stats show otherwise, saying that younger couples will divorce sooner than had you waited, but they are often comparing 18 year olds to 28 year olds. Big difference. I think the sweet spot is between like 22 and 35. Marry much after that point and it's no different than if you were 18.

2. This is correct, and ties in to my above paragraph. Older couples are lonely and desperate to find a spouse, they rush into it just to have things fall apart.

3. I rarely see this. I saw one couple who had troubles, the wife being Catholic and the husband being atheist, so it would be easy to blame it on that. However, the wife was skinny as a rail and wanted to live in a city, and the husband was a fat tub of lard who wanted to stay in the country. So yeah if you're not compatible at all it's not going to work but I haven't seen much of anything in terms of different cultures and religions not working out.