Dave what you said is illogical.
You are proving my point. If I can affect your free will and change what you desire then I can say that I changed your will without violating your freedom or coercing you. If my will currently is that the things regarding God are not important, the gospel is foolishness, and Christ is of no practical value - then what needs to change is my very will. And that's what Calvinism says.
The problem is your will. What you guys are demanding is not just that you be free of outside coercion. I agree with that. But you are demanding that your current free will is somehow able, before a work of God's Spirit upon that will, to change so to speak in a desirable way. Now here's the key point. I will concede to you that unless there is some innate responsibility on the part of each of us, to at some point respond or reject the influences of God - then he cannot truly find us guilty of not doing so. Now where you misunderstand Calvinism is that you are not understanding that the inability they speak of is because of your will which you hold in such high esteem. If the reason for you inability is because of your own will then the Calvinists are right and you certainly can be held guilty and accountable. I am already conceding that I go further and say that while this is true, it is also true that God is giving some light, and the gospel message itself gives some light - in total, I believe that though we rightfully start out guilty, those who don't come to Christ are guilty of not only starting out with a defective will - but are guilty of rejecting grace and drawing, some of which is given to all men. So that, when J.C. Ryle, and even John Owen, say that a man who finds himself lost he can look back and see that he rejected what light he had and is thus truly guilty, they mean it.
To really understand this is difficult and I don't find the Calvinistic explanation completely satisfactory. Neither do I find the Provisionists adequate either. Our natural free will defective and if you come to Christ it will be because something has been done supernaturally to your wonderful, sovereign, free will. I'm sorry, but that is the truth. Arminius would have agreed with that as did Grantham, the Baptist founder, and they said so.
So, far from being illogical, a true change must involve your own will. A loser in a war who agrees to surrender, or a victim who on threat of death, gives up his money - there has been no change in his personal will at all. He has indeed been coerced. He will hate what he did and the one who made him do it all the more because his will was not internally affected at all. In my readings of Calvinism, they are the ones who think these things through and try to explain them. And it's not really necessary that you do so, but if you simply dismiss it then I guess there is no more to discuss.