What constitutes a date?

Well, Tina, I really have no idea! {I've never been on one!}
Now I believe in courship, but I supose if you were going to date when your parents said you could, I think you both need to be saved, and dedicated to Christ, you both need to have convictions similar. No, I don't know as you will agree 100% on everything, but it really helps if youhave many of the same mindsets so you won't have to argue as much! {sure wish my dad knew that BEFORE he got married, but then again, he's doing it again, and the wedding is already set! }
But another thing to remember, is that running ahead of the Lord can lead to many horrindous mistakes. Just wait on Him to lead you to the one He has and you will be fine.
OH, and NEVER EVER EVER get involved with someone who isn't saved...EVER! I've seen too many young ladies, and heard to many stories of the elder women of our church, good, god fearing women who went and thought they could change the unsaved guy, and ended up going to church by themselves, and facing oposition from their husbands. The same goes for guys.Don't date a girl who isn't saved. One day when you really want to serve GOd, and you're married to an unbeleiving wife, you're going to have problems. My on pastor, got saved married his wife, and later GOd called him to the ministry. They don't talk about that time much, but his wife once told the ladies that she caused a lot of the fights and arguments of their marrage because she was not saved. Now praise the Lord she eventualy got saved! And that is wondeful, and I've yet to see a more godly lady, but sometimes it dosn't always work out that way.
The same thing happened to my grandpa, and my grandma didn't get saved till two years ago. {they are 66 and 62} He had to wait forty years for her to get saved. I just don't think that's worth it.Why set yourself up for sorrow, when we have enough facing us as it is?
If us young people would follow the Lord {and even those of you who aren't so young.... ...ok, kidding! } I think most things would be so much easier.
Ãbby <><

[ January 16, 2003, 08:08 AM: Message edited by: saved by grace 1999 ]

 

saved by grace - instead of going I didnt do that vile dating thing -

tell us what you did on your courting rituals

 

a boy, a girl, going somewhere, together.

thats a date.

 

Why cant a courter answer the question of what they did while courting

*sigh*

 

Sularus, I've never courted/dated or anything like that. Never had a "boyfriend" cause most guys run in the other direction when they meet me. I'm "too old fashioned for them!" I'll wait on the Lord.
But i was simply saying what I would do if someone wanted to date/court.
I have a friend who is courting. She is in Bible college right now and that's were she met him. What do they do? Well they go to {I'm not sure if call it cafeteria, mess hall or what} that area were you eat, and have dinner together. The talk. A LOT! On the phone, at school, anywere! They go on church gatherings together. Sit together for chapel and church services. They have never been in a situation were they were completly alone. They don't touch. AT ALL. Not even hand holding. Some young people may think I'm crazy, but I think they are doing it right. I'm proud of them. Even at a Bible college, they kinda get picked at for having such convictions, but they don't care.
WHat I thought was so funny, was that the boy, when he first met her dad, asked if he could court his daughter. Her dad said "No." They said the poor guy looked like he was about to cry. The dad went on to say:"You ruined the chance! When a boy first asked to court my daughter, I wanted to be cleaning my shot gun!" Well of course he was only kidding.
My pastor, after I turned 14, actualy took me aside and said that he didn't want any boy to go and take me away from my church family. At the tiem I didn't understand what he ment. Well I don't think he has to worry about that! Anyone that tried to take me from my "family" better be ready to run! If I ever married, I would follow my husband were ever the Lord leads, but no guy is taking me from my church any other way, by God's grace.
My preacher also told me that if I ever found the one I thought God had for me, My grandpa, and he would have to approve first! I have NO problem with that!
Anyways, Sularus, did I answer your question good enough?
~Abby

 

The point is from that description of courting - I dont see how it differs from dating

A truly conservative Christian female - who knows Scripture and doctrine - BWA HA HA HA HA

Actually wait let me rephrase that Christian females under the age of 40 who arent married that didnt gain that knowledge and desire as a patr of that marriage dont exist. I know a liberal theology - conservative female - but thats the closest youll get.

Sorry Ive yet to see such a thing exist - Since I tend to be the voice for conservatism everywhere I go

Well ok except for a place in Missouri - there I was a voice for actually opening that wild groovy book known as the Bible.
Your 14 or 15 - from what I could find out about you - btw nice picture - ok im joking grainy photo - and yer skin appears to be pale enough that white and lite off white are not your colours.

Also a lil young for courting ye are -

 

ROTFL! YEs, I'm 14, and yes, I do resemble a ghost when it comes to coloring. YEs, I'm too young for corting or dating or anything like that! LOL, I probably won't ever have to worry about any of that, cause no one would want to put up with me!
~Abby

 

Over the years dating has evolved and changed with the times. I suppose there was nothing wrong with the classic 19th century boy going to girl's house, talking with parents, eating dinner, then going home. However, sadly just as the Bible said would happen, "evil men will wax worse and worse."
Now most kids (wow, I sound like my grandmother!) completely remove all parental supervision from the picture, which is "spiritual-suicide". There is no point in teens pushing the issue, they'll only end up with heartbreak and dissapointment. I hold the same believe another has already made, just wait on God, and in His time He'll give you the PERFECT spouse...

 

Courting if I recall the stereotype also believed in unsupervised time alone within the parents house

 

I believe dating is when two people of the opposite sex delibrately spend time doing something together. I myself have never dated anyone, but do know the importnace of dating someone who is a believer, and have seen what happens to people who date non-believers, this is hard, I know but I pray pays off in the end. Otherwise

 

Of course I meant two single people who like eavh other

 

A point could be made that Saggy is "single" when she's alone with these men. Although since I dont call dating the evil tool of Satan spawned to suck us all into the pits of hell and turn us into succubi and incubi respectively, I dont have as much of a problem as some people would.

I believe dating has degrees - I believe that man who wrote I kissed dating goodbye is not only mentally handicapped - he has caused more grief to me then Adam eating the apple. I swear before the Lord God Almighty if He ever grants me the chance to meet that man face to face, I will curse him, and show him the error of his ways.

 

I think that we can keep dating pure and not let Satan control it or us and our emotions.

 

Excellent point -
"Sin shall not have dominion over you..." Rom 6.14

My only concern is for young people to keep themselves out of jeopardizing situations...

 

I believe that it time for a date only when you know that this person is some one would marry. And then you should stay in a place where other people are.