modesty?

i agree with you kristen

 

I have several guy friends and I can tell a difference in the way they talk about girls who are modest and one's who are not. They respect girls who dress modestly.

 

There has been a lot of discussion about the outward manifestations of modesty, but modesty starts at the heart. The reason that the styles of the world are what they are is because the world does not know the Lord.

If you are truly saved by grace, your desires for your clothes choices are going to be, "what will be the best reflection on my Lord" instead of "what do I like the best."

With this in mind, when someone sees the way you present yourself (clothes, make-up, style, neatness, the way you walk, sit, lean, bend,...) are their eyes going to be drawn to your face and see the glory of the Lord radiated? If not, we have a problem.

I would encourage you ladies (and men) to stand in front of a full-length mirror after you are "ready" and stretch, bend, sit, twist,... Where do your eyes go? If they are drawn to a specific area that may cause a brother or sister to stumble when they see it then you might need to change something so that you can be a wonderful reflection of our Savior to the world.

Jennifer

 

thats good linscott i agree

 

yikes! (the english student in me is cringing!!) it's 'ditto'...

 

I agree with Miss Jennifer! That is wonderful advice!

 

I did not mention about how you dress. However I did mention about the kind of person you are. There is a difference. A person can dress modestly and be arrogant and ungodly.

How you dress may or may not have anything to do with who you are such as your character.

If you are discipling others and leading people to Christ, tose whoi are lazy and do not engage in ministry will feel uncomfortabel around you.

 

Good point - your exterior may not always represent what is in the heart (the example of the wolf in sheep's clothing.)

We have some newly saved young ladies at our church that used to wear very tight pants. That was not the first area we tackled when we began discipling them. We taught them about the holiness of God through the perfect, inerrant Word of God. As they grew in their christian life, the external began to change and matched the internal.

It is dangerous to say that all people that dress modestly are good, godly Christians. That is simply not the case. Some may dress modestly because their parents tell them to, but inside they are in defiance and their heart is not representative of what their outside is saying.

However, since we as sinful humans cannot see what is on the heart, we are stuck with observing the outward signs and making our conclusions from them. The Bible says, "by their fruits you shall know them." John 15 talks about God as the vine and we are the branches that are to bring forth MUCH fruit.

Your clothing choices, actions, attitutes, places you go, people you hang around with, words spoken, testimony for the Lord, church attendance, ... are all part of the "fruit" by which the world around will judge you.

Are you being "fruit" basket?

Jennifer

 

amen

 

I am not the kind of girl who would date these guys. The way I dress is who I am if I want guys to think all I am is a pair of legs and a set of breast I would dress that way but I do not. I have always stood up for what I believe in I have never backed down and the guys at my school know that but even still they try to talk to me when they know that they are not the kind of guy that would date. I do not see how you can assume these things when you do not even know me.

Kristen

 

Kristen let me tell you that guys want what they can't have (I plead guilty to this). They see you and know that you are way out of there range. So it makes them want you even more.

 

Kristen,

This is from my personal experience, and this is how I view dating to keep my sanity while I wait for my partner.

When we attract the attention of those that follow the enemy, and we do not attract single people of our like allegience: The Holy Spirit is trying to save us for the right person, and satan is trying to destroy a match made by God ahead of time ...

That is just how I keep my sanity. It has been a long wait, and I KNOW that I have attracted BEAUTIFUL women that were attracted to my character, but they were not active believers.

I know that when I am around Christian women whom I find attractive(*), they are often not attracted to me.

In Christ

(*) No my standards are not too high:
She must ahve these attributes.
1. An active believer
2. She can become a pastor's wife
3. She can become romantic to me.

somewhere after 4 or 5 looks might come into play.

 

Thanks you guys I have a list of things that a guy must rise to before I will date Him. I only want the best that God has for me.
Kristen

 

How important are looks to you?? I understand that you need to be attracted to a person but would you choose beauty over personality or character??

 

I think personality and character take affect (or is it effect... i cant ever remember) on the .... i guess "level of beauty". I see girls that are very attractive but when you hear them talk they are undereducated, self-centered and then their "level of beauty" drops alot.

Here is what I look for:
1. Believer
2. Educated
3. Fun - good with kids
4. Does NOT... want to be just a stay at home Mom

and just like El Guero look are a little further down

ok let me explain #4 I have nothing against stay at home moms I think its a great thing is just that I would like to take place in raising my kids as well. My mom is a stay at home mom and she is the only person that I will really talk to my Dad and I dont really talk because he is always at work... so i want us (my wife and I) to be part time stay at home parent.... does that make sense

 

One who radiates Christ shines. You can cover a dead person with a silk covering but it still does not bring life to that person.

Prov. 31 speaks of a woman that works hard and encourages her family and husband by her dedication and discipline. She is a very productive lady. She works hard and provides for her home. She buys a field and plants it. She senses that what she does is good. She not only provides for her own home but has something to give to others.

I grew up on a dairy farm. So I do not know what it is like to see my mom just be in the house. Everyone of us worked on the farm milking cows, driving the trucks and tractors and doing manual labor. But today everyone of my siblings are doing very well. All but one have had their own businesses and have done quite well.

 

Looks? absolutely no importance. i mean, its not her fault!!! as long as she looks as best as she can, thats good enough as far as looks go.

 

Wow, so ckm49r, you don't want a woman who wants to stay home... Hmm. Guess it takes all kinds.

Me personally, I want to stay home. It's my dream to stay home and write (before kids) and then to homeschool my kids. It may not happen, but it is a desire that is near and dear to my heart. The writing, well, I'm tired of my writing having to be sandwiched in. Hopefully, my future husband will see that writing is important to me, and will agree to let me stay home and work that way. If we just can't handle it, I will have a degree and will work to help out.