An Ugly Situation Could be Coming to a Head

To begin with I could use some prayer and maybe some words of wisdom.

Here's why, I'll try to be short as possible but this needs some background: I have a niece with 4 children that has recently moved back from Oregon for a new job as a surgical nurse after a divorce. She has had a severe alcohol problem for some time and is getting worse. Several people in my family have helped her financially including me and she has drained much of my sister's (her mother) retirement savings because of her problems. I've seen this level of alcohol abuse before and where it leads. In fact, I've lost a few friends due to drugs and alcohol and recognize that point in which you feel helpless and feel there is really not much more you can do. It is hard to see my niece getting this bad and to see my sister and mom cry over it.

But now, beyond that, my niece's behavior has become a threat to my extended family to which I have a patriarch role and am very protective over. What has happened is my niece flipped out at a doctor's office and the doctor seeing her mental state had her institutionalized in a rehab facility. While the family took care of her kids she meets a guy there, another addict who becomes her boyfriend after she gets out, he moves in and in short time they are fighting and he threatens to kill her and her kids! My other niece, her sister who I am more like a father to than an uncle, gets an urgent call from her and fears for the children and contacts the police and Child Protect Services. CPS takes the kids away and tell her this "man" is not to be around her children while they prepare for a court appearance.

Rather than get rid of the guy she starts posting on Facebook about her love for him showing pictures of them getting tattoos and him visiting her at work. Then she moves the guy into her apartment permanently before going to court and 3 of her kids are given to their father in Oregon. The other kid, my great nephew, is 15 and his father is dead because of a serious genetic mutation that ends life usually by the 20's called Osteogenesis Imperfecta and Ehlers- Danlos syndrome which this boy also has.

There is good reason for concern over this boyfriend, he is/has been a Mexican gangster, he is a 8 time felon that has been in and out of jail since 1993 and all of his convictions were for assault, abuse of children, adult abuse and weapons violations! All of this punk's assaults seem to be against women, children and older adults I might add!

But it gets worse, my alcoholic niece finds out my other niece had my great nephew for the weekend and go over there and starts threatening her saying that her boyfriend will help her carry out these threats. My niece calls me and tells me about this and about a gun her sister has stashed at my mom's house. My mom is 83 and my sister recently moved in to take care of her. I go and get the gun and find out before all this happened that the boyfriend had been over for dinner with my niece and when they left he stood outside taking pictures of my mom's house! BTW, she is not getting the gun back because she is mentally unstable!

Okay, for some background about me before I became a Christian at 35 years old I was living a rough life and was in a lot of fights in my teens and 20s, not with women and children but rather with bullies, and I hung with a rough crowd but I have put that stuff behind me and have had no need to go back. BUT, and this is where I need some prayer and words of wisdom, I am getting very angry about this guy coming into my family and making these threats and I don't the like the thoughts going on in my head. It is like the hair is standing up on the back of my neck because I take serious threats very seriously. Honestly, up to to about 15 years ago I probably would have hunted this guy down by now and beat him half to death while daring him to ever show his face again, and this punk would never come back!

I'm 61 now but still in good enough shape and could take this guy, but out of practice, could possibly hurt my hands or maybe run out of air before I finished the job and this would be a fight I could not chance losing considering my family's fate if something should happen to me, SO, ...and here is where I need prayer for wisdom, I am prepared to shoot this guy if need be. This is an ugly feeling and puts me in a place I would never expected to be at this stage in life.

My great nephew has asked to come stay with me sometimes on the weekends. I talked to CPS at length today and they're going to make me a custodian when he's with me. My niece, sister and mom have been told that if this guy is so much on their street I want to know about it immediately!

Right now, I thinking about how to get this guy to understand that he has no choice but stop the threats by use of a gun but while staying within the law? He has not met me but I'm sure he's heard I'm getting involved and am not a guy to be messed with. I don't know if he's crazy enough to try to confront me or to think he can get away with carrying out any of these threats but the reality of this thing possibly coming to a head is weighing heavily on my heart.

 

Thank you for this wonderful prayer, bro.

 

My niece has an order of protection and it has proved to not be worth the paper it is written on. Thanks for the prayer.

 

GRACE is never deserved; people make mistakes and do change and besides much of the focus was for the innocent children. All my family are worth my concern, even in their faults, even if the love becomes tough love. That said, none of us expected this to get so far out of hand and now that the children are gone, she will not get another penny from any of us.

 

Nah, this isn’t a “to settle a family squabble” it is an effort of trying to be responsible by asking for guidance and prayer from my Christian brethren in dealing with serious threats coming from a repeat felon outsider of my family who has a long history of this type of violence. And I am inquiring how to “legally”, morally and wisely protect my family. But likewise, I considered your advice about going public before posting but I unashamedly fully intend to protect my family from this menace’s intrusion and to stay within the law to the best of my ability. No matter what happens I believe the truth should prevail about what I need to do should it come to that. Thanks for the prayers.

 

I would have to get this expense past my wife being we’ve already given $1600 and furniture in the last few months and she’s fed up with it all, wondering why her immediate family needs to be involved and what’s to become of the 15-year-old. My wife is upset because of this landing on our doorstep, disturbing our peace and she’s worried about me getting up in arms having witnessed some of my past when someone gets up in my face. Here I am telling her it is no big deal and I can handle it while I reach out to others for more advice.

Yes, the police have been called and the court’s been involved. Social Services seemed happy to see me stepping up when talking to them yesterday and are doing a background check on me to clear me for guardianship while I have custody on weekends or whenever my great nephew is in my presence. I have a very good resume to put up against this repeatedly violent felon’s record should this end in a conflict.

 

So, I get a call that this lowlife beat up my niece again today. She called the police and then went by mom's house to ask my sister for some money because he took her bank card. I called my mom as I've made it clear I will not have her exposed to this kind of drama, but she was fine and didn't even seem to know about it. Then, I get another call that apparently a gangbanger friend of his called my great-nephew telling him he would shoot him between the eyes if he didn't tell him where his mom was at.

I've been predicting he would assault my niece again being most of his felonies are for assault and this already happened once in the first 2 months she was with him. I told the CPS worker that despite they were going to counseling and taking all the necessary steps that I considered him a danger and we agreed if anything happened that I would let her know know so I did.

My niece that got beat up talked to my other niece today for the first time since this all began to come to a head and told her he has a gun and is still mixed up with the cartel. I've told the family members that he might threaten to tell him where my niece is at to tell him she is with me. I'm prepared if he comes by here and I doubt he has the guts. If he goes by my mom's its definitely going to get uglier in a hurry as I will be determined to hunt him down and set it straight that he is to go nowhere near her. I'm thinking one of my best legal options is to catch him with the gun (being he is a felon) and arrest him for the new felony and hold him for the cops.

Sorry to say, I'm feeling no grace for this guy who more than ever I am considering a serious threat to my family and this makes it feel as if the peace God has brought into my life has sadly taken a step back. Prayers for good judgment and a Christian valued outcome are appreciated.

 

It just came to mind that I wonder if a drug deal gone bad could be in the picture because that might explain why he would take her bank card and this 3rd party would call and threaten my great-nephew - which he told me he could hear arguing and a girl crying in the background.

 

A couple hours after to talking to the CPS agent again, the punk was just arrested for illegal possession of a firearm, assault and theft (her bank card/money and prescription drugs).

Thanks for the prayers.

 

I don't know what to think, but my niece was admitted to the hospital unconscious as a Jane Doe yesterday afternoon. Apparently in a car accident and her identification and keys were missing, we just found out this afternoon. The locks on her apartment door have been changed so the manager can't let anyone in, her dogs are in there. She is conscious now but has a concussion, in a neck brace with possible spinal injury and very little memory for even 5 minutes. A whole of unanswered questions. There is word it might be a hit-and-run. My other niece fears it could be gang related retaliation for sending the punk to jail. The police seem to be avoiding questions about the accident. I just don't know yet.

I also have no idea why the arrest record doesn't say "ASSAULT" and "THEFT" unless that is under Disorderly Conduct.






Bond: No Bond

001 Count(s) POSS WPN BY PROHIB PERSON

Disposition: AWAITING COMMISSIONERS COURT

Next Court Appearance: 11/25/2019 for: ARRAIGNMENT

Additional Charge for this case
001 Count(s) DISORDERLY CONDUCT