Featured Preferred Pronouns

Nope

 

I would say, "No."

I would say, "No."

 

If he wants to talk with the pastor, then the pastor should talk with him.

No.

 

I would not use a different pronoun than he or she was born with. No discipline, but maybe discipleship.

 

My question for us here. What, if any, passage of Scripture or Scriptures were in mind for your answer?

 

Mark 10:6 From the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.

 

1 Corinthians 10:32-33, comes to mind, ". . .
Give none offence, neither to the Jews, nor to the Gentiles, nor to the church of God: Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved. . . ."

 

I address people according as to what naturally comes out of my mouth. Most of the time brother or sister. Anyone touchy enough to be offended by how they're addressed I will not be addressing often and they can start deducting from 70 times 7. Scripturally, we should be dead enough to not be touchy.

 

What comes to mind is something my dad used to say; "If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
I will take my stand for Christ not the world. From the beginning of creation, God MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE. If a person has a problem understanding that than they need someone to explain reality to them and I agree with @Scarlett O. in her approach. We can disagree with out being disagreeable.

The church is most effective when we are different from the world not a part of it.

 

Calling someone by the wrong pronoun is bearing false witness. It is lying.

I am not perfect and I still catch myself telling a lie occasionally, but I make an effort to always tell the truth. The lying I do is telling my mom who has moderate Alzheimer's the wrong name for a food. I will call something like a cherry tomato a strawberry just to see if she will correct me. I do it for a purpose, but it is still lying. . .

Why I say that is, I try to be truthful even when it cost me to be truthful. Why would I tell a lie for someone else when there is no advantage to me to do so. What they are asking you to do is to lie to them and to tell them that God is wrong in their case. To do so, that person would be asking me to abandon my strongest and most deeply held beliefs.

 

I would tell them I believe they are mentally ill and should seek counseling. Further, I would advise him/her I see no usefulness in ignoring 60 years of understanding the English language to accommodate their mental illness. It doesn’t help him/her in any way to pretend he/her is something they are not.

Further, I would advise him/her to stay away from my children/grandchildren.

I would then advise the pastor the person seems to be mentally ill and shouldn’t be left alone with children.

peace to you

 

The pronoun "He" has an established meaning. The same with "She." Calling a male a "she" is a deception. There are reasons when deceiving someone may not be a sin, but it is still a lie. When Rahab hid the spies she lied when the city came looking for them. But, in that case the lie was not a sin.

Using the wrong pronoun in these type of cases is a deception and a deception for no good reason. But having said that, your example of Tom wanting to be called Alice is not a lie. A person had the right to use whatever name they wish. For example, the English rule for how to spell a name recognizes that the correct spelling of a name is the way the individual spells their name. I am a "Philip." I spell my name with one "L." Many other's with my name spell it with 2 "L"s. Who is right? The correct way to spell my name is Philip, the correct way to spell their names is Phillip. If I wanted to change my name to "Donald Trump," I can go down, fill out the paperwork and become a person named "Donald Trump." Or I could do the same thing and choose the name Melania Trump, the same is true. If I legally change my name to her name, I would be "a" Melania Trump. So a person calling me Melania Trump would not be lying, they would surely be laughing, or shacking their head, but they would not be lying.

 

I would call them by their preferred proper name instead of a gendered pronoun.

I would call them by their preferred proper name instead of a gendered pronoun. Christian love and courtesy is more important than culture wars.

 

Is it Christian love/courtesy to feed someone’s mental illness?

If a 40 year old man came to your home for dinner and told you he identified as a 10 year old girl, would you let him sleep over with your daughter/granddaughter?

I suspect not.

Christian love does not mean we throw common sense out the window.

peace to you

 

No one is feeding feeding another's mental illness by referring to someone by their preferred proper name.

The real need is for all of us to engage in Christian discipleship. The greatest need of the person who experiences gender dysphoria is to connect with Jesus and be transformed in grace and faithful obedience.

The culture war "gospel" is a distraction from our primary Christian calling.

I'll let you know when that happens. I think it is more likely that a purple giraffe will come by my home and attempt to sell me automotive insurance.

Of course not.

But we definitely shouldn't throw the gospel priorities out the window just because "culture wars" are fashionable in so-called Christian circles.

 

The pronouns that concern a gender-confused person are only used when you are talking about them, (third person pronouns) and are not used when talking directly to them.

Pronouns used when talking to a person are not a problem, “you” is generic.

Rob

 

Unless the person prefers “yi/yim” instead of “you”.

peace to you