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Tissue boxes in sanctuary...

Reynolds

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I recently read a blog that dealt with why men have stopped attending certain churches. One reason given was "tissue boxes in sanctuary".. I honestly do find tissue boxes to be a turn off, always have. Problem is, I now can't go to church and see the tissue boxes without cracking up laughing.
 

Deacon

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Never thought about it.

Coming from a church that didn’t “pass the basket,” I find the offering disruptive and more distracting.

That said, I could tell you exactly where a tissue box is (now) in my previous church.

As for not attending because of tissues???? Sounds like a poor excuse not to attend.

Rob
 
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Blank

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I recently read a blog that dealt with why men have stopped attending certain churches. One reason given was "tissue boxes in sanctuary".. I honestly do find tissue boxes to be a turn off, always have. Problem is, I now can't go to church and see the tissue boxes without cracking up laughing.
Hate to sound 'sexist', but wouldn't tissues be a woman thing?
 

David Lamb

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I recently read a blog that dealt with why men have stopped attending certain churches. One reason given was "tissue boxes in sanctuary".. I honestly do find tissue boxes to be a turn off, always have. Problem is, I now can't go to church and see the tissue boxes without cracking up laughing.
I realise that you are in America, and I am in the UK, so we do have differences in our use of English, so I am just checking that by "tissue boxes" you mean boxes of disposable paper handkerchiefs. If so, what a strange reason for not attending that church. In my experience, people have their own handkerchiefs, whether disposable or washable. However, as I say, "tissue boxes" might have a completely different meaning in the USA!
 

Blank

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I realise that you are in America, and I am in the UK, so we do have differences in our use of English, so I am just checking that by "tissue boxes" you mean boxes of disposable paper handkerchiefs. If so, what a strange reason for not attending that church. In my experience, people have their own handkerchiefs, whether disposable or washable. However, as I say, "tissue boxes" might have a completely different meaning in the USA!
In the USA, this is usually what is meant by 'tissue box'...


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Roy Kling

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I find the tissue box's to be a more recent thing, that said, it doesn't bother me.

The offering, passing the plate. Our church has a locked mounted wooden box in the vestibule, drop it in as you pass. I like that and agree that having ushers passing the plate is a waste of time and distracting.

Alter calls, we have one every Sunday morning service. It isn't like it was in the 60's when there were people going up more often than not. I believe a simple invitation at the end of the service from the pastor to meet with someone in private on their own time would work better.

Not saying I'm right, just my thoughts on the matters.
 

Roy Kling

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What does bother me is people who walk off with the provided pens on the backs of the pews. Some of us take notes and don't always have a pen with us.
 

Scarlett O.

Moderator
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I tried to Google that blog about men not going to church because of a few Kleenex boxes and I couldn't find it. I did find a few others claiming that if the church would hang deer heads and mounted fish on the walls and never, ever, ever put up another bulletin board on the wall and remove all the flowers and stained-glass windows that men would come back.

I find this confusing and very sad.

Yes, men can weep a little in church and it's OK. My pastor has shed tears while preaching because the gospel moves him. Probably only 10 or so times in 5 years. I don't think less of him. I'm sure that there have been men sitting in the pews and looking at their mother in a casket that need a Kleenex or seeing his rebellious son whom he was certain was going to hell be saved that shed a tear.

What about men who have a cold or need to blow their nose? A Kleenex would be very helpful if they didn't have a handkerchief.

This notion of Kleenex being a "woman thing" is bizarre to me. It sounds like you all believe that all women do is sit on the pew and boo-hoo like a bawling baby.

I truly don't get that a box of Kleenex would keep a righteous man out of church and that it would be an aversion to him.
 

Dr. Bob

Administrator
Administrator
We always put a box of tissues in the "family row" at funerals. Kindness to those grieving if needed. Never thought of them at normal services.

We do have tissue boxes in both restrooms but not in pews.
 

Roy Kling

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Scarlett, men who don't go to church because of, ''decor'' use that as an excuse, not a reason. They don't want to be there regardless of what it looks like. Our pastor's wife does the decor in our church, and she does a tasteful job of it. Currently it's blue candles with blue and silver ribbon on the window sills and altar. Tasteful and on-one thinks it's overly, ''feminine''. Our little church is in the country, smack-dab in red-neckville. Most are hunters, fishermen, outdoorsmen, farmers, shooters, etc. deer heads, and mounted fish would probably be a shock to even us.:Laugh
 
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Scarlett O.

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Scarlett, men who don't go to church because of, ''decor'' use that as an excuse, not a reason. They don't want to be there regardless of what it looks like. Our pastor's wife does the decor in our church, and she does a tasteful job of it. Currently it's blue candles with blue and silver ribbon on the window sills and altar. Tasteful and on-one thinks it's overly, ''feminine''. Our little church is in the country, smack-dab in red-neckville. Most are hunters, fishermen, outdoorsmen, farmers, shooters, etc. deer heads, and mounted fish would probably be a shock to even us.:Laugh
My church uses sort of neutral colors. The walls are a light gray with white trim. There are a medium dark set of wooden beams. A dark burgundy carpet and flowers on the Lord's Supper table.

I honestly feel the church sanctuary should be neat, warm, inviting, and not showy. Neutral colors. And the focus on the Lord. I'll see if I can find those pictures of the church with deer heads and mounted fish on the wall. LOL
 

Reynolds

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I tried to Google that blog about men not going to church because of a few Kleenex boxes and I couldn't find it. I did find a few others claiming that if the church would hang deer heads and mounted fish on the walls and never, ever, ever put up another bulletin board on the wall and remove all the flowers and stained-glass windows that men would come back.

I find this confusing and very sad.

Yes, men can weep a little in church and it's OK. My pastor has shed tears while preaching because the gospel moves him. Probably only 10 or so times in 5 years. I don't think less of him. I'm sure that there have been men sitting in the pews and looking at their mother in a casket that need a Kleenex or seeing his rebellious son whom he was certain was going to hell be saved that shed a tear.

What about men who have a cold or need to blow their nose? A Kleenex would be very helpful if they didn't have a handkerchief.

This notion of Kleenex being a "woman thing" is bizarre to me. It sounds like you all believe that all women do is sit on the pew and boo-hoo like a bawling baby.

I truly don't get that a box of Kleenex would keep a righteous man out of church and that it would be an aversion to him.

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Roy Kling

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My church uses sort of neutral colors. The walls are a light gray with white trim. There are a medium dark set of wooden beams. A dark burgundy carpet and flowers on the Lord's Supper table.

I honestly feel the church sanctuary should be neat, warm, inviting, and not showy. Neutral colors. And the focus on the Lord. I'll see if I can find those pictures of the church with deer heads and mounted fish on the wall. LOL
Sounds about like our sanctuary minus the beams. Most dramatic thing, (besides tissue boxes) is above the double doors at the back main exit in large words, ''YOU ARE NOW ENTERING THE BATTLEFIELD". It's a small church, if filled maybe 90 people comfortably. Our normal Sunday morning worship service we have about 40 attending. Small cement block building painted white built in the early 1960's. Pastor's house off the road behind the church, he can hunt in his back yard. And I like the bulletin board in the lobby!

I thought you were joking about the deer heads and mounted fish...I can't imagine.:eek:
 

Scarlett O.

Moderator
Moderator
Sounds about like our sanctuary minus the beams. Most dramatic thing, (besides tissue boxes) is above the double doors at the back main exit in large words, ''YOU ARE NOW ENTERING THE BATTLEFIELD". It's a small church, if filled maybe 90 people comfortably. Our normal Sunday morning worship service we have about 40 attending. Small cement block building painted white built in the early 1960's. Pastor's house off the road behind the church, he can hunt in his back yard. And I like the bulletin board in the lobby!

I thought you were joking about the deer heads and mounted fish...I can't imagine.:eek:
Here's a seven year old church that reaches out to unchurched men. Facebook
 

Roy Kling

Active Member
What ever works! Too much of a good thing for me, however I do see some things I like. I like the way they have the seating set up, drawing attention to center, and even the tables with chairs at the edges. I would love to have a platform for my Bible and a surface to take notes on! Our Friday morning Sr. Bible study takes place in the basement, several long tables pushed together in a square, pastor at 12 O'clock and us ''veterans of life'' filling the others. I like that set-up very much!
 

David Lamb

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In the USA, this is usually what is meant by 'tissue box'...


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Thanks. Yes, the same as here. I've not heard of churches providing them, but if a church did, it wouldn't be a reason for me to leave that church; I'd just see it as providing a need. Perhaps the church concerned had experienced people coming to services without their own handkerchiefs, and sneezing over each other.
 

Reynolds

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Thanks. Yes, the same as here. I've not heard of churches providing them, but if a church did, it wouldn't be a reason for me to leave that church; I'd just see it as providing a need. Perhaps the church concerned had experienced people coming to services without their own handkerchiefs, and sneezing over each other.
They are there in our church because a certain group of women become uncontrollably emotional when the worship leader plays certain emotional songs.
 

Dr. Bob

Administrator
Administrator
They are there in our church because a certain group of women become uncontrollably emotional when the worship leader plays certain emotional songs.
As a small-church pastor I almost always led songs. When we got to the 3rd verse of "It is Well with my Soul" I often had tears and was thankful I was waving my arms already. Needed my handkerchief.

"My sin - oh, the bliss of this glorious thought - my sin, not in part but the whole
Is nailed to the cross and I bear it no more! Praise the Lord! Praise the Lord, oh my soul."
 
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