Tfisher, I began to realize that when I tried to look at things from 'outside' the human perspective. In other words, we can go to a child's funeral and be reassured "He is now safe in the arms of God" or something like that.
How much better for the children that way, even if there was some temporary pain or fear or suffering on this side than to live in a culture where all they were ever exposed to was rebellion and evil.
Then I started thinking about Sodom, and Abraham's 'discussion' with God. Abraham was not 'talking God into something' -- rather God was giving us all a lesson through Abraham. On our side, one person can do so much good! On the other side, when there are not enough 'one persons', the society is doomed.
So at least God rescues the children...
In the Promised Land, the cultures that were there when the Israelites arrived were involved in some of the most horrid things involving their children you can imagine. Boys and girls both were sold into temple prostitution at very young ages, or as sex slaves to the rich. Child sacrifice to Molech and possibly other idols took place by heating the metal cast idol to very hot and placing the child on the metal outstretched arms where the child was burned to death.
There are tears in my heart even as I type that.
Far, far better for God to command all these people be wiped out than to allow these things to continue.
We just rarely see it from that oint of view. What pagans, and often we ourselves, see, is from our side -- "What kind of God would command execution of innocent children?"
Answer -- the very God who appreciated their innocence and preferred them home to their growth in evil.
Once I started seeing things from that perspective, I started understanding a lot more of what was happening in the Old Testament and the lessons God wants us to learn.
The tares will grow with the wheat, Jesus said, until harvest. It's the same lesson.