Africian-Americian??????

11 Black Celebrities Who Say They’re Not African American

 

I do not use that term :
1) Teddy Roosevelt said we don't need hyphenated Americans
2) Exactly what is an "African-American"

 

I don't have a problem with "People of Color" as that can include different groups.
But normally, we do not need to refer to a person by color unless it is for definite identification.
For example: "We just had a black transfer to our high school -and he will be on our basketball team." Absolutely no need to use the term black.
Now, if a store got robbed - the victim might say - white man in his 50's with a wooden leg and he was accompanied by a black female with waist long hair. That would not one be acceptable - but necessary.

 

I would be concerned - but not for what some would consider the "obvious" reason

1) Rather, I would be concerned for the same reason that should be considered for any major difference such as: different parts of the country (where will they live); different religions; major lifestyles (he goes hunting for two weeks every fall); major age difference -(when he turns 70, she will only be 35); meat and potatoes guy - but she is a vegetarian; rich guy, poor girl; frugal husband - spend-a-holic wife; He wants a dozen kids (as did his parents) as well a dozen more other examples.

2) When it comes to race - should the couple consider the children (this is not as important - then it would have been 40 or so years ago) Will there be trouble with the in-laws, will both possibly loose friends, ect, ect.

Now, I am not saying that the items in paragraph 1 and 2 cant be worked out, sure they can- but the couple needs to realize that there could be long term roadblocks down the line. Therefore these issues need to be brought to the forefront before the wedding and come to an understanding.

I will mention that pastor friend of mine - who is Black married a white women. He told that his church was in the Southside - where a majority of residents are black. He mentioned that his church was not growing that much - and he believes that a major problem is that the locals did not like the fact he was married to a white woman.

So, as a pastor, how do you counsel a couple who have major differences?