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Biblical re-marriage?
- Thread starter 12strings
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I'm curious how "a suitable period of mourning" would be defined?
convicted1
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Yeah. I have heard of people who buried their spouse and then less than a week later, have another person move in. They sure didn't mourn very long.
LOL - I guess I'm too quick on the draw today?
I answered the most obvious ones and then "depending on circumstances". Really, each case is so individual.
convicted1
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LOL - I guess I'm too quick on the draw today?
I answered the most obvious ones and then "depending on circumstances". Really, each case is so individual.
Uh oh.....Quick Draw McGraw is in the house.........I just hope and pray her aim is good.......
That is one that is depending on the circumstances. We knew 2 couples who did this and the second divorce ended up significantly worse than the first......
It would possibly be only after quite a bit of counseling.
I tend to also include those circumstances which under OT law would have called for the death penalty, ie the guilty person would otherwise be dead.
On two of these issues here's my thougths:
1. A couple who were previously divorced but who have decided they want to re-commit to a life together: I think this should ALWAYS be encouraged, because it is the godly course of action that is the clearest act of repentance if one has disobeyed the command: "What God has joined together, let no man separate." If they have separated, repentance should include putting it back to gether, and is something to be celebrated, not warned against. Tell them they will still have problems, but that God can help them work through them if they are committed to honoring him with a life of fidelity.
2. A "no fault" divorce (Yes, I know there is no such thing), but the previous spouse is no re-married. In this case, I think it is now the equivalent of and adultery/abandonment case, because the person has joined to another person...There is no longer the hope of these two people reconciling. In such cases, I do not believe it is necessary to condemn them to a life on unmarraige, even though they were very likely a contributor to the failure of their first marraige. Such a view, I believe, forever views the person as "damaged Goods", and does not fit with what I believe is God's desire to redeem people's situations and give them a new start.
1. A couple who were previously divorced but who have decided they want to re-commit to a life together: I think this should ALWAYS be encouraged, because it is the godly course of action that is the clearest act of repentance if one has disobeyed the command: "What God has joined together, let no man separate." If they have separated, repentance should include putting it back to gether, and is something to be celebrated, not warned against. Tell them they will still have problems, but that God can help them work through them if they are committed to honoring him with a life of fidelity.
2. A "no fault" divorce (Yes, I know there is no such thing), but the previous spouse is no re-married. In this case, I think it is now the equivalent of and adultery/abandonment case, because the person has joined to another person...There is no longer the hope of these two people reconciling. In such cases, I do not believe it is necessary to condemn them to a life on unmarraige, even though they were very likely a contributor to the failure of their first marraige. Such a view, I believe, forever views the person as "damaged Goods", and does not fit with what I believe is God's desire to redeem people's situations and give them a new start.
what about adultery/sexual diviations such as porn/gayness would that fit under abandonment?
I didn't vote for several reasons:
1) There was no "Other (please explain)" option.
2) I wouldn't "perform" a wedding since I'm not a preacher.
3) I wouldn't be "a party" to being married since the immutible God has called me to remain "celibate" for my entire life (66.25 yrs so far [46.5 of them "in the Lord"]); thus, for me to marry would violate the immutible God's calling for my life.
1) There was no "Other (please explain)" option.
2) I wouldn't "perform" a wedding since I'm not a preacher.
3) I wouldn't be "a party" to being married since the immutible God has called me to remain "celibate" for my entire life (66.25 yrs so far [46.5 of them "in the Lord"]); thus, for me to marry would violate the immutible God's calling for my life.
Adultery is a clear Biblical reason.
Porn is not a clear Biblical reason although I believe it is greatly harmful to a relationship. I don't think a wife can biblically leave her husband because he got a subscription to Playboy.
If the spouse is actively involved in a homosexual relationship, then that is adultery. No different.