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Maybe it is you who needs to change and not everyone else around you.

 

It was not a personal attack it was straight out good counsel. Look we have a member who has not been able to post due to health reasons named Tom. He is a Calvinist and never posted with arrogance or superiority. He attends a Baptist church where the Pastor and some of the other leadership are not Calvinists. He knows that there will be some things preached and taught that he disagrees with and yet he never feels he needs to confront or get in the face of anyone. He serves and worships the Lord there in that church with the peace and calling of God and always works to maintain unity first.

You have a zeal but no judgment. That is not meant as an attack it is just a statement of fact. You should be able to serve and worship God right there beside your family in peace and unity. Pray, disciple, and love your family and that church. You start doing that first and you will see God move in your life and in the lives around you in a way that you would never want to change.

 

If God moved me there then I would do as God wanted. How about you?

 

What are the disagreements over?

 

The answer is no but you need to ask the right question.

The right question is how should I handle being in this circumstance God has put me in?

The answer is more silence than talking. The answer is patience and prayer not confrontation. The answer is be a loving influence rather than an "in your face" annoyance. These people are not your enemy. Stop treating them like they are. Love them no matter what. Be at peace with them in all situations. Serve God right there faithfully and in unity with that local assembly. You have some areas of growth that needs work and the situation you are in appears to be the tool God wants to use in your life to obtain that growth. When God is done with you there He will move you. You keep trying to get ahead of God and life will only be miserable.

 

I don't see why a church would accept someone who will not come on Sundays. Sundays is the main day for worship at most churches. Illness, jobs, traveling are one thing when it comes to missing an occasional Sunday here and there, but every Sunday is a problem.
Here is the thing. You made the willing choice to join your wife's church. You knew what their stand was before signing on the dotted line. By sowing division you have been violating what the Bible say about how to act in a church.
Heb 13:17 Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.

 

http://www.capitolhillbaptist.org/about-us/what-we-believe/church-covenant/

"We will not forsake the assembling of ourselves together"

http://www.capitolhillbaptist.org/sermon/class-5-meeting-with-gods-family/

"Regular Worship. We also emphasize that members attend regularly in themorning, [sic] as well as attend our Sunday evening service."

 

Evan6589 joined his wife's church. They are not Calvinists. They are KJVO and total abstainers of alcohol. According to Evan they don't do evangelism properly since they don't preach repentance enough and don't use the Way of the Master methodologies. I think they don't do contemporary music either. These are all sore points with Evan.

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1. So far Evan has refused to step up and take the Spiritual Leadership in his home.
2. True
3. Its churches that follow the 9 Mark of a healthy Church according to Mark Dever which are:

1. Expositional preaching
2. Biblical theology
3. Biblical understanding of the Gospel
4. Biblical understanding of conversion
5. Biblical understanding of evangelism
6. Biblical understanding of membership
7. Biblical church discipline
8. Promotion of Christian discipleship and growth
9. Biblical understanding of church leadership[8]

My husband and I actually found the church we are going to on 9marks site so we are a fan.

 

You're welcome

 

You were warned.

Taxonomy of Fundamentalism (IFB)

 

It's 9 Marks.

 

John - when you asked people on this board about your fiancee, you were given a LOT of advice to not marry. When you asked about other things, you were given advice that didn't agree with what you preferred to do.

Why do you think anyone's going to give you advice that says yes, those people will allow you to become a "part-time" member of their church?

By the way: the answer is no. The explanation is, if YOU were the pastor, would you accept a person asking to be a part-time member?

Give it some thought. It's time to make a decision. No more wishy-washy trying to have it both ways. Just remember: you chose your wife, knowing full well the differences, and knowing full well the importance of the biblical relationship between husband and wife. Careful with your choice.

 

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