GodzPropertee
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Hello, I'm coming to you from Tennessee to express a very common problem among preachers, ministers, reverends. I met a Baptist reverend on the internet in Aug. of 2005 and we started communicating daily. He told me he had been divorced for 2 years. We shared other personal information about ourselves as well. He had shared with me his desire to pastor his own church and said he was looking for his First Lady. Things really took off with us and we spent hours and hours on the telephone, we would fall asleep talking and awaken the next morning. We made plans to meet, and even talked marriage.
In Oct. 2005, to my surprise, I received a phone call from his WIFE, who cleared up a few things. She told me they had been separated for 2 years and had been talking reconciliation. However, he lives in Michigan and she had relocated to another state after the separation. She said that she felt he had not been truthful with her. Needless to say things went down hill from there, we had argument after argument, and eventually quit talking. I was very upset and angry with him and felt very betrayed that a man of God, particularly a Reverend would do such a thing. I know were all human and fall short of the way God would have us live, but, in my opinion, a man in the pulpit leading God's sheep should have his house in more order. His walk should be better and stronger than the average man sitting in the congregation, otherwise, anyone can sit in the pulpit. His wife took everything that had transpired to the Pastor of the church, and...well, he's still in the pulpit.
Beginning of April 2006, this reverend called me again and expressed his apologies for pursuing me before his divorce was final, etc. etc. He said he had filed for his divorce and it should be finalized very soon. We started talking again, and talked a lot about what had transpired between us. As the weeks passed he told me he had received the divorce papers to sign. I still had some reluctance at this point but continued to talk to him anyway.
It was a coincidence that we would both be in ATL the beginning of May so we made plans to meet. We also met 2 other times after that, spending several days together in the same hotel room. Anyway, things blew up recently and I called him a name. He said he didn't like the way I blew up at him and he was done. Now he doesn't answer my phone calls and doesn't care to here what I have to say. Here I am again so upset I could explode, angry at him, and myself for allowing him a second chance. Now that I think about, he still may not be divorced, even though he said he received the final papers. I am having so many ill thoughts towards him right now.
I would like your opinion on the proper way to handle a situation like this. I had thought about contacting his pastor myself and I had also thought about referring this to whatever Baptist board governs the churches in Michigan. I'm not Baptist so I don't know the procedure, or if it's even worth it (I attend a nondenominational church). This guy is so cocky and arrogant, he doesn't even have a clue. He thinks all he has to do is confess his wrong and move on. What should I do?
In Oct. 2005, to my surprise, I received a phone call from his WIFE, who cleared up a few things. She told me they had been separated for 2 years and had been talking reconciliation. However, he lives in Michigan and she had relocated to another state after the separation. She said that she felt he had not been truthful with her. Needless to say things went down hill from there, we had argument after argument, and eventually quit talking. I was very upset and angry with him and felt very betrayed that a man of God, particularly a Reverend would do such a thing. I know were all human and fall short of the way God would have us live, but, in my opinion, a man in the pulpit leading God's sheep should have his house in more order. His walk should be better and stronger than the average man sitting in the congregation, otherwise, anyone can sit in the pulpit. His wife took everything that had transpired to the Pastor of the church, and...well, he's still in the pulpit.
Beginning of April 2006, this reverend called me again and expressed his apologies for pursuing me before his divorce was final, etc. etc. He said he had filed for his divorce and it should be finalized very soon. We started talking again, and talked a lot about what had transpired between us. As the weeks passed he told me he had received the divorce papers to sign. I still had some reluctance at this point but continued to talk to him anyway.
It was a coincidence that we would both be in ATL the beginning of May so we made plans to meet. We also met 2 other times after that, spending several days together in the same hotel room. Anyway, things blew up recently and I called him a name. He said he didn't like the way I blew up at him and he was done. Now he doesn't answer my phone calls and doesn't care to here what I have to say. Here I am again so upset I could explode, angry at him, and myself for allowing him a second chance. Now that I think about, he still may not be divorced, even though he said he received the final papers. I am having so many ill thoughts towards him right now.
I would like your opinion on the proper way to handle a situation like this. I had thought about contacting his pastor myself and I had also thought about referring this to whatever Baptist board governs the churches in Michigan. I'm not Baptist so I don't know the procedure, or if it's even worth it (I attend a nondenominational church). This guy is so cocky and arrogant, he doesn't even have a clue. He thinks all he has to do is confess his wrong and move on. What should I do?
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