Jennifer Marie
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There are so many layers to the story that I don't even know where to begin. All of the drama has just built up over time and I'm at a breaking point and no one seems to notice or even care, especially those dumping the drama. In Second Timothy, when the Bible talks about people being lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful ... it just seems to fit my current family situation. There is so much backstory that leads up to everything but essentially I'm the drama dumping ground for my brother and my father and I honestly can say that I do not care anymore. I love them but I can't listen or be involved in it. I can go into the whole story for those that want to know but basically my dad has gotten himself into the situation he's in and I try to stay neutral and see both sides of the story. He's so quick to play the victim and throws a hissy fit to get his way and blames everyone else because, for some reason, he always has to be right and know everything, even when he doesn't. He has to feel justified or more powerful than others for some reason and when it gets dismissed or not acknowledged in front of everyone, he starts a fight about him being taken advantage of and how everyone else is to blame. I've been listening to the same stories for the past 5 days, after he showed up at my place of employment and asked my boss if he could store some of his things here because he's planning on leaving his girlfriend in the middle of the night while she's sleeping and he's going to leave her with no money and a broken phone because he's the victim in all of this. He tells me the same story and then gets snarky with me about I don't know all the facts and I tell him that you've already told me. I haven't come straight out and said I don't care anymore but I'm getting to that point. He plays games with her and has the whole time. I try to help him see that maybe there's another side to the story if he'd just ask without an attitude that pushes everyone over the edge. There's so much to keep straight ...
I feel like my closest family members have conformed to the ways of this world and are self-loving, greedy, hateful, boastful people and I don't want to be around them anymore. They don't listen to reason, they aren't living Christian lives, they always have to be right or start a fight to try to prove it, they are selfish and have made me honestly not care anymore. I've wasted so much time, energy and concern on them for them not listen. Why come to me in the first place if you're not going to listen, negatively affect every aspect of my life, and then make me feel guilty when I try to pull away from the situations?? I am physically and mentally sick from all of it. My hair is falling out in clumps, my stomach is in knots and I'm not eating, I can't sleep, my mind races, I have cold sweats anytime they show up or text or call. I'm suffering from severe depression and anxiety all alone and they can't even see it. I do not want to be around these people but am I wrong? Is that unpleasing to God? 1 Corinthians 5:11 talks about not associating with those who are guilty of sexual immorality, greed, idolaters, revilers, drunkards or swindlers. Proverbs 13:20 "whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm". Psalm 26:4-5 "I do not sit with men of falsehood, nor do I consort with hypocrites. I hate the assembly of evildoers, and I will not sit with the wicked". My brother and my father are both doing things with malice intentions. They are premeditating their actions, knowing they are wrong and unChristian, and doing them anyways. Am I wrong to turn my back and disassociate myself with them? I still pray for them and pray that they see the Light before it's too late but I'm to the point that I physically and mentally can not continue to support them and their ways.
I feel like my closest family members have conformed to the ways of this world and are self-loving, greedy, hateful, boastful people and I don't want to be around them anymore. They don't listen to reason, they aren't living Christian lives, they always have to be right or start a fight to try to prove it, they are selfish and have made me honestly not care anymore. I've wasted so much time, energy and concern on them for them not listen. Why come to me in the first place if you're not going to listen, negatively affect every aspect of my life, and then make me feel guilty when I try to pull away from the situations?? I am physically and mentally sick from all of it. My hair is falling out in clumps, my stomach is in knots and I'm not eating, I can't sleep, my mind races, I have cold sweats anytime they show up or text or call. I'm suffering from severe depression and anxiety all alone and they can't even see it. I do not want to be around these people but am I wrong? Is that unpleasing to God? 1 Corinthians 5:11 talks about not associating with those who are guilty of sexual immorality, greed, idolaters, revilers, drunkards or swindlers. Proverbs 13:20 "whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm". Psalm 26:4-5 "I do not sit with men of falsehood, nor do I consort with hypocrites. I hate the assembly of evildoers, and I will not sit with the wicked". My brother and my father are both doing things with malice intentions. They are premeditating their actions, knowing they are wrong and unChristian, and doing them anyways. Am I wrong to turn my back and disassociate myself with them? I still pray for them and pray that they see the Light before it's too late but I'm to the point that I physically and mentally can not continue to support them and their ways.
