Hey men, lookie here!

Submissive wife:
When she tells me to take out the trash she says please.

HankD

 

Gina, Gina, Gina, Gina, Giiiiiinnnnnaaaaa!!!!

"You ask such hard question, Grasshoppa!" And as Master Yoda would tell Count Dooku--"Much to learn, you still have!!"

Blasted, I'm right in the middle of cookin' supper--its 6:15pm CST and my wife is away on jury duty! I had to homeschool the young uns today-take care of a little church business--then took the kids with me and spent the afternoon at the CPA's office gettin' the blessed taxes done--not to worry, the CPA says that I stand a good risk of being "audited" by those IRS punks because of that one time love offering we gave to the building fund--yepeeeeee!!

How do I know when she is submissive?? Harmony, my young Padawan! Harmony!

You take care of yourself--those are some real good questions you ask--I pray for you every day--I really do--pray for me, please! One day I will share with you why.

Your Southern Baptist preachin', tax evadin' buddy,
Blackbird

 

Oh, and Gina--
Answering your second question--well, my guess is: she won't ever never have to "stand up for herself" if I am the kind of husband the Scripture tells me to be--I mean, its a lovin' relationship like the Father has with the Son! Jesus never had to stand up for Himself because the Father was the kind of Father that He was.

Brother Blackbird

 

I think I will move this to the men's PRIVATE forum

Cheers,

Jim

 

This suggests that you are treating her badly to start with.
I'm single at the moment, but certainly I felt as an equal to my last girlfriend and would want the same from a wife.
I couldn't stand a wife who felt she had to 'obey' me, I want someone who challenges my ideas, who can constructively disagree with me while seeing my point of view at the same time.

If I have veto power on the remote, that's as submissive as I could ask.
-KFC

 

I have a question for you guys.
1. What is your definition of a submissive wife?

one who understands i have the final say and is respectful towards me with a meek and quiet spirit.

2. Would you want your wife to stand up for herself if you starting taking advantage of your "authority", or would her "submission" to it make it really tempting to treat her even worse?

i certainly want to know it if i'm not loving her properly, or sinning in any other way. also, i don't want to mistakenly tell her to do something sinful. otherwise, god has called her to submit to me in all things.

what would be an example to taking advantage?

 

I have a question for you guys.
1. What is your definition of a submissive wife?
A woman who submits to me as much as I submit to her.

2. Would you want your wife to stand up for herself if you starting taking advantage of your "authority", or would her "submission" to it make it really tempting to treat her even worse?
Absolutely. A man who abuses his authority has no authority whatsoever. A submissive woman has real authority. A man who biblically practices his authority knows how to submit.

3. List some examples of a wife being in submission to you.
One who reminds me that I have the authority to take out the trash and do the household repairs.

 

That's easy. The place of a woman is at her husband's side.

Not at his feet, not over his head, not in front, not behind.

A man who puts his wife anywhere except by his side is abusing his authority. A woman who refuses to be next to her husband is not practicing submission.

A man who lets his wife make decisions without his is not practicing headship. A woman who does not give equal input to the decisionmaking process is abusing her submission.

 

johnv, the relationship of christ to his church is a biblical illustration of christian marriage. does everything you said above apply to jesus and his church too?

 

Can I rephrase the question?

What is God's definition of a submissive wife?

 

Gina~~
Forgive me for posting here, for I am not a man. But I am married to the most wonderful man I could ever hope for.

He treats me with respect, love and adoration. I know I am his beloved and he is mine.
If a man follows what the L~rd has to say about how men are to treat their wives the the rest is very easy. We women will willingly and happily submit to our husband.

And if that doesn't work then may I tell you what I once heard a beloved Pastor say?
Submission is ducking so G~d can slap your husband.

Until He comes,
D \0/

 

IWorshipHim,
Ain't that what I just said as the first poster of Gina's fabulous topic!? Submissiveness of a wife to a husband is a picture of the submissiveness that the Lord Jesus Christ has to His Father--you men get the "head" thing straight--start acting like the Father--men, you get that right--figure out some way to do it--and you'll find your wife being as submissive to you as Jesus Christ is to His Father. You can't have submissiveness without the right head--the head has to be right!

It all boils down to this--Husbands start acting like the Father--wives will start acting like the Lord Jesus Christ--I'm deadly serious about this, Sister Gina!

Blackbird

 

Easy one, the definition of a submissive wife is Jeanne . By her submissiveness she had a very LARGE hand in my comming to know the LORD JESUS CHRIST . She did not beat me over the head with the bible, she did not send the preacher to tell me I was going to Hell, she did not treat me as if I was worthless. What she did was to pray for me, talk to me about the LORD, ask my opinions about something she had read in the Bible even though I hadn't read it myself, she always treats me with respect, she will let me make the final decision even when it is a bone headed one. By simply letting me know what the LORD had done for her, she helped me to see that I needed HIM too. And that makes her my help meet. In short she is submissive by helping me know what to do. My part in that is to do the same for her. In the end she will try to follow my will, just I must try to follow HIS will.

Bill

 

BBB!!! AAAAAAMMEEENN, Brother! God bless that wife of yours--pointing you toward a saving knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ!

Jesus said, "I do those things that please the Father!" You want to know what's going on in the husband's mind--watch the wife!!

Brother Blackbird

 

My wife is being submissive when she lets me think I make all the decisions, while I'm actually doing what she wants. The ladies are clever at that.

 

I don't think a lot of people takes this issue very seriously and likes to joke it off but God takes it very seriously. I believe this is why the divorce rate is so high in our churches because people take marriage and submission too lightly.

Preachers want to get upset about the number of divorces that take place in their churches but they don't have the backbone to teach on submission or on marriage.

There is a natural order in a marriage and when that order is violated havoc ensues.