I would appreciate it...

Katie, actually we prefer that the insults NOT be aired publicly. We do not want these forums hitting the gutters. If something gets bad, please feel free to share with a moderator or administrator what is going on. If some kind of 'slashing' is going on behind the scenes, we probably should know about it if it pertains to material on the board.

Would you believe this is supposed to be a relatively friendly place?

A lot has happened recently and there are a lot of hard feelings among many right now. Let's keep things as calm as possible and submit it all to the Lord in prayer. He's the only one big enough that I'm aware of to handle all of us together!

God bless you.

In Christ,
Helen

 

I agree with both Helen and Katie. That was a very good word from both of you.

Joseph Botwinick

 

Katie,

If it makes you feel any better, I've been having just the opposite problem.

I've had a couple of people pretending to be friendly in PMs and then being absolutely vicious in public.

 

I've only been away for a few days... what on earth has happened?

The B.B. posting rules say to take personal things up with the person privately in P.M. not in the public view of the board.

Wouldn't it be nice if everyone posted to a topic...instead of to the person saying it? That is what the Webmaster has asked us all to do.

As to what Helen said about taking it to the moderator when things get really bad... I've been attacked vehemently in P.M....and mentioned it to a moderator, not on purpose, but because I was troubled and she was already trying to make me feel better. It made all the difference. The attacks stopped immediately.

 

Mike, that's because we're for the most part addressing issues on the boards and not the people themselves.
When I PM someone personally, I'm talking to them personally. So I'm a lot "nicer" than I would be directly addressing an issue/thought.
Gina

 

It really blows me away that either of you, Katie
or Wisdom Seeker (and I know Helen is attacked,
but I guess that comes with being a moderator)
are being personally attacked in the PMs. The
unadulterated audacity--that anyone would pre-
sume it their responsibility to attack another is
pretty weird.

Give me a break, people! No one has attacked
me yet, but I suppose my day is coming.

Sure, I get PMs from people who disagree, but
not with the viciousness these ladies are appar-
ently experiencing. I presently have one PM of
disagreement with me still sitting in my PMs, but
the person was congenial and gentle in his post.
He is a good man with good intentions; we just
don't always see eye-to-eye.

What about "Let your light so shine . . . " in public
and in PMs?

Most use the PMs to find understanding, in my
opinion. I have, of recent days, found a real
friend in someone, because of her PMs, even
though we don't agree on everything.

- - - - - - - -

Mike --

Just wondering: did you find any of your music
I could buy? 8o)

[ December 02, 2002, 05:40 PM: Message edited by: Abiyah ]

 

Well, I love getting email...private or otherwise. I love snailmail too. I will answer any & all, so send 'em on~

 

Because a friend felt that my message left some
doubt that I believed Katie and Wisdom Seeker,
when they related that they had been attacked,
I edited my message above. Yes, I believe them,
because of who they are. But I find it ludicrous
that anyone would take such an action, I don't
care who it is. And no, I don't know who attacked
Katie.

And now, I am going to do the Gump thing:
And that's all I have to say about it.

[ December 02, 2002, 05:46 PM: Message edited by: Abiyah ]

 

I'm with Katie, Wisdom Seeker and Granny G!! Just don't send me a "cotton-pickin'" virus!! If you do--your "neck of the woods" ain't gonna seem so big!!

Your friend,
Blackbird

 

katie, have you asked via pm this person/s to please stop? Is there someway to not open them when you see who it's from? Or just delete it somehow? Have you tried just talking to them? Sometimes if you have ought against someone & tell them how you feel, they will try to reconcile. At least prayer always works well.

 

Katie,
I would suggest using this member option.

What is an Ignore List?

Ignore lists apply to private messages only. Anyone you add to your ignore list can no longer send you a private message. You can put someone on your ignore list by viewing the member's profile and clicking on the "add to ignore list" link. Private messaging must be enabled on this site in order to use buddy lists.

 

Katie, if there is a problem with another member here, I think that the administrators/moderators are willing to help. If you'll PM one of them and alert them as to what is happening and who is doing it, they should be able to take care of it. I recommend possibly forwarding the hateful PM's to the moderator as well.

Julia

 

Yes Katie...use the ignore list... That way you won't even know if your getting anything from that person...it cuts down on the stress level believe me. I have some people on mine...not many, but what are you going to do, when you ask them to stop, and they won't? Ignore...that's why it's there I'm sure... to make for a better B.B. experience...