Lonliness

LONELINESS: Hey no one wants to admit this truth, but I’m sure Like Jesus we have all been there, some more than others, like me. LONELINESS weighs down the married person who has come to realize they didn’t marry their “prince charming” or “Stepford wife”…to the single person, especially the one who is hitting 40’s or 50’s who has yet to met “the one” much less romantically kissed anyone. To the one who was betrayed by divorce, while their abandoner quickly finds another to “try out” …with no work on their part. To the widow who struggles everyday to understand WHY Lord, why me when we were one of the few who actually still loved and enjoyed each other? To the father, or mother, or any relative who lost a loved one to a tragedy before their time, To the abandoned, tossed around, used child who no one ever loved. To Jesus on the cross who cried out “Abba Father why has thou forsaken me?”…..when He took all our SIN upon Himself and therefore His father had to look away.

God never intended us to be alone, for he said so in Gen. 2:18. But he also didn’t intend for all the things mentioned in the above to happen either. His desire is for all to come to Him and receive LIFE…. life ABUNDANTLY….That can only be attained by KNOWING Him like a man “knows” his wife…intimately. He is calling the lonely into a focus that doesn’t relish in the realm of the evil one. Not an easy task, seeing that one’s instinct is to “fill” this void of loneliness, with something other than God and His will. Whether that be material things for some, bad relationships, knowing they were bad from the get go, or food, or pride, or even the more taboo, porn, drugs, alcohol, or any other destructive behaviors. In a true sense they are all destructive. Many times people, especially Christians do not realize that God’s “laws” or “rules” in His word are for our BEST which in achievement produces abundant life. He isn’t up there shaking His fist at everyone ready to pound them when they mess up, nor is he that granddaddy giving out candy all the time. (my grandfather gave us all kinds of ice-cream, as he was an ice-cream man) All He wants is our best and to Glorify Him in the process….I think when we feel lonely, or that we are not living our full potential, which can cause a feeling of loss of hope, one has to go back to some basic truths.

1) If we KNOW God he always has our best…if we LOVE God, even better, the road will be easier. Matt 7:14

2) There are always 2 choices on either side to make… do I chose to listen to God or listen to the devil? John 10:27

3) Do I choice to obey God or obey the devil?...Like pastor Whitaker use to say “you can’t keep a bird from flying over your head, but you can keep him from NESTING in your hair”…that is where it starts. Funny he didn’t have hair..Titus 3:1

4) When God started a “GOOD WORK in me he will complete it. Phil 1:6

5) I am an ambassador for Christ. His love, grace and acceptance, along with an occasional rebuke must go on to point others to Him. 2 Cor. 5:20

6) As the good athlete that I am, I must finish the race to WIN the prize. Heb 12:1-3

7) My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and only God knows my
departure and only He is allowed to decide when that will be. 1 Cor. 6:19-20, Psalms, 39:4

There is more I’m sure but you get the point. Loneliness, one of the worse things you can do to a man is isolate him from others…but we NEVER (unless we are in prison) have to be tormented to that extreme, we have the ability to go out into the world and meet others. We can go to church in freedom, find small groups and hopefully makes some safe friends. Coffee shops, meet up groups that share your interests and hobbies, (there is so many) parks and so many other ways to meet people. I have NO control over how someone views me as a person, their perception is their own, all I have control over is my reaction to them and my being open to growth, and being the best me I can be.

I often times write something thinking I am going to go in one direction, and then God causes it to go in another…all the while helping me as I go….I must say, that really is a cool experience.