Please help me to understand.

I have a question and would like to hear your thoughts. Our Pastor has put his son on the church staff doing an internship. This will be a paid position. His son is 17 and has not had any college as yet. He has just graduated. His son also has not lived a standard in which that you could call blameless(I won't elaborate). We have quite a few students graduating that are going to be pastors or go into missions, it just feels like they should be given the same opportunity. The son is going off to college to be a worship pastor. It sounds like church politics but maybe I am way off base, I need to hear from some godly people out there that could shed light on this for me.

 

The decision was made at a buisness meeting. They have a very low turnout for business meetings. Just a handful show-up. And it was put as an internship with no name given and then it was after the fact that they voted that they would offer an internship that it was stated that it would be the son. To be honest I have never seen anyone challenge the pastor anyway. I just wanted to hear thoughts. I always thought an internship took place while you were in training at college. You go off to college and recieve training and then you look for chances to intern somwhere during the summer. This is a 17 year old fresh out of high school. And to be put on a salary, I don't know????????

 

The reason I posted the question is because I did not want to discuss it with people at church. I do not believe in tearing down the body. As far as his qualifications he is a gifted young man. My problems with him and so many others problems have been his self-centered attitude, his arrogance, his untrufulness, his ability to know all personal business in the church and share it with others, his Romeo charm(hopping from girl to girl leaving a trail of broken hearts), his cruelness, and his I am the Pastors son and noone will hold me accountable.(believe me people have tried and were shot down). Several years ago a family tried to hold him accountable for his behavior toward their daughter I have heard the boys mother(Pastors wife) verbally tear that family down(Her reply was he was just trying to make something boring fun) In fact that's what happens, you try and hold any of the children accountable you get tore down. I am in a LARGE church but I have been there from the ground up and because the church is so large only those inside know the true nature of the Pastors son. The only thing most of these members see is a boy with an angels face and an angels voice, who sings and raises his hands in praise. As far as the rest of the Pastors kids, pure nasty to others. All of them. I love my church, I love the other 3 Pastors(family Pastor, Associate. Pastor, Worship Pastor) but I struggle with the other issues. I know there is not a thing I can do but I can pray and I can use this wonderful board to vent my frustrations. I vent them to God too all the time. Thanks all who answered.

 

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I should alse mention that not only is he gifted he has an extremely charismatic personality and charm. As my grandmother use to say he could charm the boots off of a rattlesnake. Pray for the new girl in his life, she is from Virginia he met her on a missions trip and she only really knows him through e-mails and phone calls. She will be visiting in a few weeks.

 

fyi in the past myself and others have tried to set up meetings regarding issues, we were refused. I only came here to try and understand not to cause trouble. You don't know my name, nor my church, I was just trying to connect with others that might have had similar problems. For the rest of you that have reached out to me thanks.

 

Truth be told I am not looking for a solution I think I was just looking for a safe place to vent. I don't want to vent to members of the church because that would be gossip. So coming here was just a safe way to vent frustration. I know I need to continue to submit under the authority God has placed over me. But I cling to Gods promise, "You reap what you sow" I had a student say to me not to long ago, everything comes so easy for him(our Pastors son) yet he treats others so badly. My answer is God sees and knows. Its Gods timing not ours. The young man will head off to Liberty University this fall and there it won't matter who your father is because he will probably be one Pk among thousands. Thanks for giving me a safe place to ramble.

 

I am happy there. I love my Pastor. I understand what it is to look at your child through the eyes of pure love. I never intended this to sound like gossip I am sorry. I will consider this subject closed.

 

Please go ahead and delete this thread, I would not want to shed any bad light on this board. Please forgive me if this came off to some as gossip.