Question on Remarriage after Divorce.

Never heard of waiting till he remarries, new twist. Wait till he dies is true in my mind. Remarriage is labeled by Christ as adultry so draw your own conclusions.

No reconciliation. God might think differently

My suggestion is get a Bible out and study all the divorce passages and come to your own conclusion. That way it is yours and not someone else's.

 

exs. makes a wise suggestion because the biblical evidence is unfortunately far from clear on the issue.

However, I would second this remark: No reconciliation. God might think differently

There are many different books on the subject with almost as many different views. I found Feinberg-Feinberg's book "Ethics for a Brave New World" helpful, they include two chapters on marriage and divorce that seem to include most of the other views (although it is about 10 years old and is in the process of being updated).

Hopefully, most any view on the issue would recommend a stab at reconciliation--it's hard to avoid that fact that God takes marriage seriously. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation and pray that God gives you wisdom on the matter.

BJ

 

Yeah...what you said.

I believe when a man leaves his wife he is basically an unbeliever, therefore the woman is free to remarry. It is not a sin to remarry when your former spouse LEAVES.

 

I agree with King James.

From reading 1 Cor.7 especially. But was your husband an unbeliever?

 

Yeah...what you said.

I believe when a man leaves his wife he is basically an unbeliever, therefore the woman is free to remarry. It is not a sin to remarry when your former spouse LEAVES. </font>[/QUOTE]This would all be great except for that guy named Jesus who said, "Whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery" right after quoting Deut. 24:1.

 

It's amazing what is possible with God...the wrong way to look at your situation is to see what you have the license to do based on "qualifying circumstances and what not," but rather see what would be the best thing to do...and that is to try to reconcile. God can change people's hearts, this I know.

BJ

 

Greg...was Jesus not still in the Old Testament time period? What did Paul say (under inspiration of the Holy Spirit) in the NEW Testament time period?

 

Like I said, "My suggestion is get a Bible out and study all the divorce passages and come to your own conclusion. That way it is yours and not someone else's."

Go to many minds and you will find one that agrees with what you want to do if that is what you want to do, or go to God and find out what He wants you to do

Years ago my sis-in-law wanted to divorce, so she kept going to preachers for help till she found one that said, divorce the jerk and she did

 

Go with your heart, mom. Talk to God, ask him about it.

 

Trust God, you are never alone. Study scripture, not what other people are saying about scripture. Use that material as reference, for opinion, but study God's Word, stay in prayer and meditation, fast, journal, find a church that preaches the Word, keep your heart focused on making Christ the first, greatest love in your life. Everything else will fall into place as the Father wills it. Who knows, maybe even now your husband is being convicted by the Holy Spirit.

 

If it went down like you said Mommie I just wonder if your husband didn't cheat on you and then try to flip the script to put you on a guilt trip? Either that or both of you are at fault somewhere. A man just doesnt' come in and say what he said to you unless there are issues. Either he cheated on you or yall just didn't cultivate the relationship. There was a breakdown somewhere in the relationship unless he is just pulling the wool on everyone.

Just remember the Spirit of God will never lead you where the Word of God can't back you. Whatever your decision if you don't have Biblical grounds its not good. It is crucial at this time that you stay in fellowship through a Bible preaching church. Stay in the Word and keep this matter before the Lord.

Alot of times people, whether they realize it or not go searching for a answer that will affirm what they already plan in their mind to do. Be careful. Be sure that is not your intentions here.

In Christ

 

Mommie To Sadie,

Our lives are fairly similar.
I was married for almost 20 years though.
My husband suffered head trauma, and went through a personality change.
In my case, he had an affair, announced he didn't want to be a husband and father anymore, and when he actually walked out accused me of numerous lies, later re-canting them.

So - when I say this, I am not saying it from a perspective of someone who will never understand.

I do understand.

But - PastorGreg is right.

If you remarry, I believe God will forgive you if you seek his forgiveness, but - - -

Pastor Greg is right.

 

I married an unbeliever during a period when I had basically turned my back on God. I'm looking for a good Christian wife. I'm looking for a good Christian wife. If I found someone I would marry her rather than live the rest of my life alone. Let anyone here who disagrees with this position who is without sin cast the first stone.

 

Mommietosadie,

My unbelieving husband left me (he was having an affair) and our child while I still an unbeliever, and the divorce took place while I was still an unbeliever in early 1990. He was living with another woman and continued to do so when I later became a Christian. Then he got married (to yet another woman, not the woman he was living with and not the one he had an affair with!) and now has 2 young children with this new wife.

I have gone round and round (including reading on this topic on threads here) on this topic trying to understand if I can remarry or not. I am still not sure (though I lean to thinking I should not remarry, though since he has married I wonder) but since no one in my life has shown up as a marriage candidate, I don't think about it much anymore.

I definitely do not think enough time has passed for you to decide yet if you should remarry. I think you should spend at least a few more years praying for your ex, for a reconciliation, and waiting on the Lord. Even if you met someone now, personally, I think it's too soon even if you think it's okay to remarry.

You need to immerse yourself in God's word, and focus on Christ (and children if you have them). Don't spend so much time thinking about whether you can remarry. Spend that time instead on prayer for your ex and asking God to lead you.