Very good points ABC!
Typically when I was asked the questions from the person or persons making an inquiry, it turned into whether or not Sibboleth was Shibboleth. One asked what was most important to me, and I answered for my brothers salvation (which I still hope for). Of course, I was blasted for it. Yes, blasted, by these potential members. Thankfully they went elsewhere and caused a rift in other churches. They had the only true answer, and my answer was plain wrong. From what I recall, this was the only incident I have ever had of a person wanting to see what I believe.
I would give any potential members a members packet, which includes the by-laws and constitution, and ask them to attend for awhile and see if this church would be one they could join, and that no one joins this church to sit. We all have a part in doing something.
As far as non-essentials there is no need to "delve" into these, in my opinion. Generally this turns into prideful arguing, and a touche can be heard. The pastor may wisely refrain from engaging in this. I know I would not engage in this. If the person can't join until he knows many many details of beliefs about non essentials, the church is much better off to be without the person joining.
If a person came to ask me questions, like EWF is doing, I would ask why he/they left their other church. Also, I called the other pastor when I had visitors to let them know their sheep were looking around. This generally gave me a lot of information about this candidate. It became rather enlightening. Some pastors thanked me and kept their sheep from wandering around. Others prayed and hoped they'd never come back.
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What questions are you going to ask EWF? I'm certain you have a list or an idea.
And why are you leaving your other church?