Some whine and cheese...

I'm sorry you feel that way, Sop. You really need to talk with your director one on one. Don't assume anything. She's obviously assuming you don't want to be there, and look how much trouble that already has caused. Don't boil over yet. Communication seems to be the key here.

 

When you missed those times, did you let the choir director know why you had missed and how you were looking forward to being able to be back?

Did you miss enough times in a row without contacting them that they could reasonably think you weren't coming back?

 

Please, reacess the situation, and reread your post. Perhaps the reason she moves you around is because of your grand musical talent and willingness to be flexible.

If it's true that actions are followed by reactions, what is your hope for the outcome?

My advice? Don't let a choir robe or a piece of music get the best of you. Be patient, and be careful not to deem your actions a test. :thumbs:

 

Choirs are notoriously clique-ish. If it were myself, I'd confront her in front of the group. "Mrs. Music-Snob [use her real name of course], What are your feelings about my participation in the choir? It looks to me like you aren't happy about it. I'm always having to ask for my score, etc., etc."

 

Use her real name? :laugh: Can you imagine if she doesn't!!!

Sopranette, We are looking for some good Choir members, move to WV, and help us out!!! I would love to have help... We are actually looking for a director, our director got called to pastor another church a few months ago, and I am the only one with experience, so guess who is directing the Choir!!

As a side note...
The main rule I have with attendance and Choir practice is this:
If you haven't showed up to practice the song, don't expect to sing it on Sunday morning.... But usually we practice the songs 3 weeks in a row before singing them, unless I know the choir has sang it before, so unless someone misses 3 weeks in a row of practice, they should be able to sing the song.

Seriously, pray for us we need a Choir director and Piano player....I need a break!!!

 

I don't think that's the best idea. Then they both come off as "music-snobs" and other words I can't use here.

 

I'm only half-serious of course. It may not be the best idea, but it's better than sitting in the back and fuming. :thumbs:

 

Take my advice please... pray before doing anything.
It is easy to see you are hurt...
And angry...

And you know logically, that acting while hurt and angry makes matters worse....

I know this is hard, but you have to think with your head here, and not your emotions...

Then after you calm down, go to the person like Jesus said... in Matt 18. for the sole purpose of making peace....
It could be as simple as a misunderstanding...
Maybe the Choir director doesn't understand his or her actions are hurting people. (you)

I wouldn't confront her in front of the choir (as Aaron suggested) Do it the way Jesus said to ... alone.

Then if you don't get any results, take someone with you... maybe the person in authority over the choir director.

Again, it is not to get them in trouble, but to make peace...and get the choir back to worshipping God.

But my guess is, if the Choir director wants to serve God, and loves God, they will apologize the first time.

Just make sure you go with a broken heart, not an angry spirit...
And you are angry right now... so wait.

 

I guess I look at this from a choir director's perpective - I just dont see the crime here. THings get misplaced. New comers borrow absentee's things. Yall are talking like the lady did some horrible offense. IT was probably an oversight, if she is anything like me. I dont personally hand out music to my members. And I dont beg them to sing. If they want to, they will.

Maybe just give her a call or something and have a friendly chat. I bet its not really anything to worry too much over.

 

Good advice, Tater Tot!

By the way, some choir directors move people around so that the choir learns to blend better. It's nothing personal. As far as not having the music, it's probably just a simple miscommunication. You can't read the choir director's mind, and she can't read yours. Talk to her. Maybe you could offer to help organize the music? If I recall from your previous posts, you haven't been attending this church very long, right? It takes a while for people to adjust to each other, so I wouldn't be too hasty to run off. Maybe you're the one they need to help encourage the older members.

 

That's the big IF. Ain't it?

 

Assuming everything is exactly as you have perceived it, then it is really the Choir directors problem. She obviously has issues, and you should never let someone else's issues become a problem for you. Maybe God has placed you in that situation to be an example to her and/or others in the choir. If you can face this trial with Godly cheer maybe, just maybe that will be exactly the witness somebody there needs. The way I see it, it is really about how you are going to deal with it, that is the real issue here IMHO. You will be in my prayers.

Jam 1:2 Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials,
Jam 1:3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.
Jam 1:4 And let endurance have {its} perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

 

Or maybe she is intimidated by you.