When two people are right.

I feel the other person is being unreasonable and spiteful

then they can not be right.

 

read Phil. ch 2

 

Five blind men also lived in that town. They had never seen an elephant. When they heard that an elephant was in town, they wanted to find out what an elephant looked like. They could not see the elephant and hence they were sad. A small child said that they could touch and feel the elephant. Thus, they could get some idea of what an elephant looked like.

The five blind men went to the place where the elephant was. People stepped aside so that they could go near the elephant and touch him. They were happy to have touched the elephant.

Later, they sat down to discuss what they ‘saw’ with their hands.

One blind who had touched the trunk of the elephant, said that the elephant was like a branch of a tree.



The second blind who had touched the tail of the elephant, said that the elephant was like a snake or a rope.



The third blind had felt a leg of the elephant. He said the elephant was like a pillar.



The fourth blind had touched an ear. He said the elephant was a huge fan.



The fifth blind who had touched the side of the elephant, said that the elephant was like a wall.

They talked and talked. Each man thought that what he had felt was correct. They could not decide what the elephant really looked like. Finally, they decided to go to a wise man in the village who had seen the elephant with his own eyes.

The man said, “Gentlemen, all five of you have touched only one part of the body of the elephant. So you have only a partial VIEW of the elephant. If you put together your partial views in proper order, you will get an idea of what an elephant looks like.

 

tschau:

thanks for the story. now let me tell you brother what I have found about this site. we got some very educated people here and we got some unedukated rednecks. so I don't offend any of the unedukated rednecks (I r one) explain this for the very edukated.

 

Ive been in that sort of situation before, and usually there has been at least a little bit of wrongdoing on both sides, as well as alot of misperceptions, and misunderstandings on both sides. If you can honestly say there was not even a little bit that you could have done wrong, either in word, deed, or reaction, than you might have to just let it go.
When we are being wronged we so want to go and speak to the other person, find out what their problem is, why they are acting this way.....that usually doesn't do any good. Unless it is something that might be solved by the two of you getting together and hashing it out with your pastor or other respected church leader as a mediator.
"deliverance" might come in the form of the two of you forgiving each other. Since you are here, I'd say you ought to forgive the other person, whether they have said sorry or not. By all means, don't let it turn into bitterness.
You know, most times Ive been in this situation, there has been no grand moment when I was vindicated, or proven right, or even proven wrong.
All you can do is make sure you are doing right. Don't dwell on the problem. Let it pass on, let it be over, if you can.

 

In difficult situations, there is generally some truth on both sides. The important thing is to get to the real issue. Oftentimes, the real issue is hidden behind some other issue.

Search the Scriptures to determine if the Lord has said something on an issue. If it is clear in the Scriptures, the issue should be settled but recognize, as you have seen on this board, there can be vastly different interpretations for the same verse.

In all cases, the Lord desires reconcilliation between Christians.

 

Brice, if you feel YOU are being wronged, let it go. Your witness as a Christian is far more important than your sense of being right. Go the extra mile, turn the other cheek, smile and get on with your life.

You see, it is not who God will prevail for, but who will prevail for God. He will always prevail. Who is going to follow Him in humility and forgiveness? Jesus was certainly wronged many times, but He didn't attempt to 'make it right.'

Let it go. Be wronged. Let God take care of the upshot.

 

Do what Paul and Barnabas did in ACts 13 ... Go your separate ways with no bitterness or hard feelings, and serve God.