Deep Dragon states: I honestly cannot answer a question about why God chooses certain people because I am not God. Something that may seem random to us is not random to God because He knows everything. We do know that He saves out of every tribe, kindred, tongue, and nation.
But we can know why God chooses to save certain people and damn others. Those who believe on Jesus Christ will be saved, they are the elect. Those who do not believe on Jesus will be damned and are the non-elect. God's reason for choosing is clearly shown.
Calvinism reverses this and says God first elects a person, and then causes that man to believe. The problem with this is that it violates God's justice and makes him a respecter of persons.
Rom 2:11 For there is no respect of persons with God.
If God chooses only certain men to save and gives them faith, then he is showing partiality. But if God gives all men the ability to believe and free will, then God can judge a man justly according to whether he chooses to believe or not. Because not believeing God is a great sin, you are calling God a liar.
1 John 5:10 He that believeth on the Son of God hath the witness in himself: he that believeth not God hath made him a liar; because he believeth not the record that God gave of his Son.
I am not trying to dodge your question. I just cannot answer it.
One thing that confuses me is the mixing of choice with belief. Can one choose to believe something or does it just "click" ? Can I choose to believe that the moon is made out of blue cheese? I know that I can say that, keep telling myself that, and maybe even want to believe that, but I know I cannot believe that because it just does not make any sense.
Well, that is a very poor example in this age where science can show the moon is not made of blue cheese. A better example would be quasars. Most astronomers believe quasars to be the most distant objects in the universe because of their redshift, while others like Halton Arp have shown photographic evidence that quasars are physically attached to galaxies with much less redshift. Arp argues that quasars are not the most distant objects in the universe, and that the belief that redshift accurately determines distance is flawed.
http://www.haltonarp.com/articles
Now, who do you believe, those that believe redshift accurately determines distance, or those who have provided evidence it does not?
So you see, you would have to do lots of study, consider both sides of the argument, and decide who has provided the most compelling evidence before you settle on what you come to believe in this matter.
But your blue cheese argument is very poor and does not prove anything.
If someone hears the Gospel in a church service, it may or may not make sense. If the person realizes it is the truth, is a "choice" involved to believe the truth or does it just click? Regardless of whether or not the person "chooses to walk down the isle" that person will either believe or not believe the truth after hearing it.
Don't people make choice based on what they believe? How can one "choose" to believe anything? When you hear or encounter something, you either believe it or not. You make choices to do things based on what you have come to believe. Right?
Lots of folks hear the gospel, but do not
want to believe it. Why? Sin. They love sin and wish to continue in it. Let's face it, people perfectly understand that accepting Jesus comes with responsibility. We as Christians are commanded to turn from sin. And unsaved folks know this. And many do not want to give up their sin.
Here is a perfect example of this from scripture.
Mark 10:17 And when he was gone forth into the way, there came one running, and kneeled to him, and asked him, Good Master, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life?
18 And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God.
19 Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.
20 And he answered and said unto him, Master, all these have I observed from my youth.
21 Then Jesus beholding him loved him, and said unto him, One thing thou lackest: go thy way, sell whatsoever thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, take up the cross, and follow me.
22 And he was sad at that saying, and went away grieved: for he had great possessions.
23 And Jesus looked round about, and saith unto his disciples, How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God!
This account contradicts Calvinism in several points. First, we see this young rich ruler had a desire to be saved. He ran to Jesus. He also had respect for Jesus, he did not hate God. He kneeled down to Jesus and called him Good Master. He directly asked how to be saved. So he was not rebellious toward God as Calvinism teaches the unsaved always are.
This young man also knew and kept the commandments of God. Jesus himself confirmed this young man knew the scriptures "Thou knowest the commandments". Jesus doesn't make mistakes, this young man knew the scriptures and understood them.
But this young man did have one big sin problem. He valued his riches and possessions more than God. He enjoyed the pleasure, comfort, power, and security that wealth offers. And he was not willing to give this up. And we see this young man go away very sorrowful, very grieved, because he knew he had made a choice of his wealth over God. And you see, it was a matter of trust here, because Jesus promised if he would give up his earthy wealth, he would be glad and have greater treasures in heaven later on. So Jesus was asking this young man to trust him on this matter.
We can only hope at some time later that he came back to Christ, we do not know from scripture what became of this young rich ruler. But at the time he went away unsaved. Notice in verse 21 that it says Jesus loved this young man. God does not hate the unsaved as Calvinism teaches.
This fellow could have believed on Christ. He chose not to.
Jesus himself gave the reason people do not come and believe on him, love of sin.
John 3:19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.
21 But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.
I wouldn't say the young rich ruler loved sin, but he certainly loved his money more than God.
Calvinism teaches the unsaved cannot desire God unless he is first regenerated. The story I just showed you proves otherwise. This young man wanted to be saved, but he could not bring himself to give up his wealth.
But many unsaved do desire God and wish to be saved.
Matt 5:6 Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. 
