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Your Chidren and a Sleepover at Michael Jackson's house.

Discussion in '2005 Archive' started by Ben W, Jun 17, 2005.

  1. Ben W

    Ben W Active Member
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    Suppose for whatever reason your child had spent the night at Michael Jacksons house and you learned that they had spent the night in the same bed, what would you be likely to do about it?

    As I can see it, they can put up whatever reasons they like to say that is ok, yet if I was the parent, I would likely want to smack him one.
     
  2. USN2Pulpit

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    It's unbelievable what passes for "not guilty" nowadays, isn't it? But it's nothing the average multi-millionairre can't get away with.
     
  3. Joseph_Botwinick

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    I would never be stupid enough to let my son visit, let alone spend the night at Pedophile Land.

    Joseph Botwinick
     
  4. menageriekeeper

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    OOOHHH! Don't get me started!

    To late:

    First off my kid isn't staying at anyone's house that I don't know very, very, very well!

    Second, if I understand what I've read, the mother KNEW the kid was sleeping in the room with Jackson. That when at first she said no, Jackson got all upset to the point of tears.(I'll look for a link) This wasn't something she found out about afterward.

    Thirdly, what I wouldn't do is allow anymore contact. I certainly wouldn't continue to take my kid over to "play", even if I were with them.

    While I have my doubts as to Jackson's motives toward this boy, I feel the mother should be taking a bit more responsibility for her own actions. I personally believe she saw dollar signs and thought her son was the way into Jackson's wallet. Whether or not Jackson actually molested the kid has already been decided by the jury. They were in the court and we'll have to trust their judgement.
     
  5. blackbird

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    There's not a place on God's green Earth that would be left unturned-----no hiding place too remote that I would not be able to find . . . no body guard "man" enough to stop me from . . .

    Jackson is a sick-o psychopath---as well as that little boys momma!!!

    Concerning "Sleep-overs"----I don't do 'um! I and my wife do not allow our kids to attend---nor do we do "sleep-overs" at our house!! To be honest---If Billy and Ruth Bell Graham had a sleep over---and invited our kids----I'd have to tell Brother Billy---"Sorry, Man!! We don't trust ya with our kids!!!!!"
     
  6. TexasSky

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    As others have said, it wouldn't happen, but - -

    My reaction would probably be unChristian.
    It would, eventually, involve the law.

    I do believe that sleep-overs are part of the growing up process that helps children make friends, but that requires a great deal of parental involvement.

    You have to know the parents of the children you invite or who issued the invitation, and by "know" I mean, have an idea about their faith, their morals, etc.

    You have to know the kids. Not all children follow their parents' path. I had children over to the house with my kids, in general play, and listened, watched, observed. Certain kids were simply not invited back, period. Others were not welcome at sleep overs.

    You have to be there. Not just "in the house," but "there." If you aren't helping organize activities and leading them, then you should certainly be observing them. The kid who objects to you observing is the kid who doesn't need to be there.

    In regards to sleep overs in that situation. Keep all the kids together in one room. Get a lot of sleep yourself BEFORE they sleep over. that way you can "patrol the halls" and out last even the strongest willed "we'll do it after your parents sleep" kid.

    Communicate with other parents.

    I remember once when my daughter mentioned, casually, that a friend bragged that she liked to sneak out of the house late at night. I had a talk with my daughter about the absolute stupidity of that, the danger involved, and the wrongness involved. Then I called up the girl's mother and told her. She and her husband decided on a "catch them in the act" plan.

    We were considered very strict at our house. We did not allow certain language, we demanded respectful behavior toward adults, we enforced and taught good manners. Some kids didn't want to come back, some thanked us later.

    On a side note - don't be afraid to be tough.
    When my daughter was 13 the nightly news was the rape and murder of a 13 year old from her school. Like many other people, my gut reaction was that she must have been "one of thoes drug kids." In fact, I learned the girl was from a Christian home with parents who loved her very much, and the girl was an A student, active in her church, whose only "problem" had been that she had been caught sneaking out of her room after curfew "a few times."

    The night she was killed she snuck out of the house at night and met her bestfriend for a party being given by high school students. She was murdered by a boy who was also at the party. I put alarms on the windows after that. Some parents laughed at me and called me paranoid and un-trusting. I didn't really care if they laughed.

    [ June 18, 2005, 02:06 PM: Message edited by: TexasSky ]
     
  7. emeraldctyangel

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    Well, smacking him one would never do in my book. Removal of his throat might work, and yes, I have to do a lot of praying for help with that aggressive streak I have. But my children are the most important beings I have in my life, and I am charged with their well being. So that, for me, is a constant struggle to remain walking on the side of right and metering out my own justice.

    I believe that Michael Jackson, multimillionaire or otherwise, needs some serious medications for his problems. Yeah he never had a normal life, and he persists in keeping it that way. It is not a reasonable excuse. And he is a danger to many, but mostly to his own salvation.
     
  8. shannonL

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    I have 3 daughters if I ever caught sombody messing around with one of my kids like Mikey likes to do. It would only be by the grace of God that I didn't break one of the Ten Commandments. I think yall know which one.

    I grew up in a christian home. Yet I got into every drug known to man. All the rock n roll stuff. I did it all. I got saved in the county jail of my hometown in Asheville NC.
    If it wasn't for my dad bearing down hard on me in the old fashion way I'd either be in prison or dead.

    If I can spare my girls all the trouble I went through it will be worth it to me. Even if it means I'm a little over protective or whatever you want to call it. If they never smoke a cigerette or drink a beer or listen to rock music or go to a rock concert it will be fine with me.Thats just that much less they have to deal with when they get older.

    BTW, I dont' think were gonna let ours date until they are 18.

    It seems you and I think alike TexasSky.

    Yall have a good en.
     
  9. TexasSky

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    Shannon,

    Glad you came through it alright.

    My daughter and I were talking about this the other night. We both agreed, the victims in life seem to be the kids who are "too trusting." So if my instilling paranoia in her kept her alive and unharmed, I'm not sorry I did that and neither is she.
     
  10. Gib

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    You would have to be off the wall to let your kids go to his house.
     
  11. Wife of One

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    Gip isn't that what is wrong with most people today. They value "popular" opinion rather than their own convictions ?
     
  12. Fishnbread

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    What make you guys so sure MJ molested those boy's? are we becoming a society where we believe every thing the news tells us.

    Your servant
    Fishnbread
     
  13. Loren B

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    I firmly believe that the parents ought to be prosecuted. That much stupidity has to be against the law.
     
  14. OCC

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    What's with the gossip here? And to agree with Fishnbread...what makes you so sure MJ DID what he was accused of? I for one seriously doubt he did.
     
  15. TexasSky

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    You are right King James, and I ask forgiveness. He was declared innocent.
     
  16. BillyMac

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    Do we even know for sure that MJ IS a pedophile???

    What about molester??? For SURE now..... do we???
     
  17. OCC

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    Well, really he was declared not guilty. There's a slight difference there. Though I believe he is innocent. And you weren't the only one "gossiping".
     
  18. Gib

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    His innocence has nothing to do with it. Would you be okay if your child spent the night with a friend and ended up in the bed with an adult?
     
  19. BillyMac

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    You mean as a nurturer???
     
  20. OCC

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    I didn't say I would be ok with it. The fact that a kid was in his bed does not prove that the charges are true. [​IMG]
     
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