IFB,
I understand what you understood, but I have to further understand what understanding there is concerning the understanding on the misunderstood issues concerning the understanding of what Paul understood through Holy Ghost inspiration which is more understanding than we are understood to deserve.
Yes, I would have a problem with my pastor coming into my castle to dictate his standards, unless my standards line up with his, of course. But on the same note, what if his don't line up with mine? If I look at his "job" as being the pastor that I employ, then I may have a problem; the first being that I thought I employed, or had part in employing the pastor, the second, I would need to consider his calling to be the watchman on the wall warning, not dictating, to me as under his watchful eye.
I need the devil preached out of me more than I would ever admit, (well, I just did that din't I?), but the reasoning is that what has worked for him, and is evident by his walk with God, to prove "his" standard will greatly improve my walk with God. Now mind you, I am not saying more spiritual, but a closer walk as my heart convicts me through his preaching, simply so I won't have as much as I had before to answer at the Judgement Seat.
If you want to know my personal standard, well, maybe you don't really afterall.
I preach standards, but I try my best to put them in the right perspective of not boasting them, or expecting everyone to line up with them. I compared it to having a bucket of squid and going around dumping them on everybody, the analogy being squid are good to "fish" with, and everybody who wants to catch fish should get a piece of squid at a time to try and catch soem more fish.
Now I would never sit under a pastor who had a lesser mode of conduct or dress than I, simply for the reason not to deminish his ministry, but most of all, I would consider it comprimise on his behalf.
I say this due to experience in the matter, I am no one's judge, but I won't let that dictate my standard either.
I fully recognize the right one has to interpet scripture, but when they "wrest" at them, it's time for counsel, a multitude of counsellors at that.
I'm a child of the Most High, not a member of some clic. The "clicish" type don't like me much for that, but I have the same standards as them, but I go one step further, I don't treat people the way so many of them do, it's just not like Christian character to malign a brother or sister who hasn't matured, not forgetting the "slime" they were pulled out of, to be where they are now. That could very easily and justifiably make them a hypocrite rather than the other.
"Lord, please don't let me be the hypocrite the pharisee was when he judged the hypocrite, I know I am."