You just accused people of reading someone else's work and looking at Scripture that way. I can tell you I looked at Scripture first and found in there the doctrines of Grace, the Holy Spirit was my interpreter.
It was not until I started looking around that I found a name for what I discovered in Scripture which was T.U.L.I.P.
Now you say both sides are arguing the same thing that is very wrong and you need to study more if you think that, now you can puff up in pride and say "I just read Scripture" but that really doesn't answer anything and you bring your own spin to the mix.
To educate you so you will know from now on here are the tenets for each position
Arminianism
- Humans are naturally unable to make any effort towards salvation (see also prevenient grace).
- Salvation is possible only by God's grace, which cannot be merited.
- No works of human effort can cause or contribute to salvation.
- God's election is conditional on faith in the sacrifice and Lordship of Jesus Christ.
- Christ's atonement was made on behalf of all people.
- God allows his grace to be resisted by those who freely reject Christ.
- Salvation can be lost, as continued salvation is conditional upon continued faith.
Notice while we can say with point one, we agree and also with point two and three we can have some agreement that is were it ends. Here is the Calvinism side:
Total Depravity - Sin affects man in every area and does not ever seek God
Unconditional Election - God chooses to save those He will
Limited Atonement - Christ died for His Sheep
Irresistible grace - asserts that the saving grace of God is effectually applied to those whom he has determined to save (that is, the elect) and, in God's timing, overcomes their resistance to obeying the call of the gospel, bringing them to a saving faith. The doctrine does not hold that every influence of God's Holy Spirit cannot be resisted, but that the Holy Spirit is able to overcome all resistance and make his influence irresistible and effective. Thus, when God sovereignly purposes to save someone, that individual certainly will be saved. (much better description than mine
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Perseverance of the saints - Whom God calls and brings to Christ He will never lose
There is a lot of misconceptions about the doctrines of Grace because it is hard sayings. I can tell you right now we are not arguing the same as the Arminians are, you will see the Arminian will say that God's election is conditional, but disagrees with Scripture.
You'll further notice that the Arminian will say that Christ atonement was for everyone, not consistent with Scripture. The Arminian will say that God can be resisted again inconsistent and then they will say one can lose their Salvation again very inconsistent.
I held those views once and it lead me to the RCC when I looked to Scripture finally I realized that within them is the doctrines of Grace, not Arminianism and I repented and turned my life over to Christ