Stephen I'm not trying to be difficult, but you have lost me. Paul describes love in 1 Cor 13.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6 Love suffers long, and is kind; love envies not; love vaunts not itself, is not puffed up, Does not behave itself rudely, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, keeps no record of evil; Rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
Now can you choose to be patient? Can you choose to be kind, not envious, not braggy, not behave rudely, be unselfish, not easily provoked, not hold grudges, hate sin, rejoice in truth?
Yes you can.
Love is not just a warm, fuzzy feeling.