You are suggesting an an-theological position. No such thing exists. Everyone fits somewhere within the continuum between Pelagian and hyper-Calvinist. They just don't realize or recognize that they do -- or that there are even positions with which they fit.
If I fit in any position I will tell you that I do. It is not your place to decide for me or anyone else where they fit. And when you realize that your unnecessary systematic labeling offends someone it is your responsibility to back off. It is sad that intellectualism cannot function outside of systematic labeling. Hence the perception that "Calvinists" are arrogant.