Mostly, men in the church are a lazy bunch that won't do anything except argue like they do here on the board.
We've created a wimpy church over the years since the Civil War, and most of what is done in church is not attractive at all to men. They tolerate it, largely because they have been trained or radically saved and cannot stay away, but all this lovey-dovey stuff, sissified pastors that only talk about golf, songs that are distinctly feminine singing about things that almost sound like a woman's love letter, and failure to emphasize the warfare element of the faith.
We lack understanding about respect, the language of men, and major in love, the language of women. Men's Bible studies are almost exactly the sort of stuff that men dislike -- just like women school teachers they recall -- instead of challenging them with difficult topics and causing them to lay their lives on the line for the faith.
If we can figure out some of this stuff, men will once again be a part of the church.
About choir? Robes? Anthems? Archaic song style? Stand in front of everyone? Really? Best thing ever is to eliminate the practice save for a once-in-a-while special event.
Oh, and I'm a real man also... I am competent, I am strong, I am a leader at home and in church, I challenge other men (iron sharpens iron), I am loved and respected by my wife and family, and I don't chase other men from the church. I have sung in the choir, but probably never again. Give me a good worship band any day.
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