Something I've struggled with the past few years is how today's church is run. I'm not talking about congregational vs. elder rule, purpose driven, seeker, etc. I'm talking about the giving of tithes and offerings and how they are used. Every time I see a breakdown of how giving is used, it both sickens and saddens me. I'll give you a random number of what I'm talking about. Say in a 6 month period a church receives 200k in tithes and offering. Say it is broken down to 120k in personnel and 70k in facilities leaving 10k for everything else including supporting missions, discipleship (which I do understand the salaried pastor is a big part of), bereavement, etc.
Is this the way the church was intended to be and what is one supposed to do if they do not agree with this model and there are no other churches around? I do not believe at this point in time God has called me to plant a church or be a pastor, so that option is out. As someone who is struggling financially (along with many Americans) I'm having a hard time setting aside a portion to "give back to God" that will end up being primarily used to support a salary or building. I realize this could just be me, and the purpose of this thread is to work through this.
Having gone through this myself, (being released by SB churches for not giving to the "cooperative program) I have understanding of both the emotional aspect and the need to actually see the giving as to the Lord.
Two immediate thoughts come to mind.
First, the giving is to be as you prosper. That doesn't mean that you don't have the example of the widow woman's mite giving, but you as a father are first responsible to provide for the family.
So, within that responsibility you need to examine what is a need and what is a luxury. Whatever is luxury should be consider "prosper." Look at clothing for instance.
Say you have two suits - do you need them? Perhaps you do, if you work in a suit, but perhaps not if they are just the Sunday best. Do you have multiple jackets - consider what is necessary and what is prosperity.
I look at my bride's shoes - and I learned to keep my thoughts and mouth shut.
What I am saying is that giving isn't necessarily money. We are to give of all our increase.
Secondly, don't think that giving will automatically bring prosperity. It is better to give out of a heart of love and conviction that what you are giving is to the glory of God, than to ever hope to gain by giving. Giving will bring blessings, no doubt, and giving is not an option to a loving believer.
Bring you and your family to a high sense of giving to others' needs. I once visited in the home of an elderly couple. I sensed the prompting of the Holy Spirit to do some physical helps to the most evident need, but was too busy to submit. I can tell you to the day the exactness of the rebuke God brought to my family.
It is just my bride and I at home now, and I am the chief cook and bottle washer. We are also no longer comfortable with inviting folks over for a visit in our home. We don't turn anyone away, but never know from one day to the next our own health and wellness of home and body. It is hard to fix shrimp creole for two. So, I make it for more and give a portion. I do the same with the meet loaf and chocolate chip cookies. The Dr. Pepper cake I make stays at home, though.
Specifically about your question in support of the local church. As a member sees their own financial state decline, it is difficult to keep the eyes off the immediate personal needs and upon the actual needs of the assembly.
The widow lady wasn't concerned with the overly rich and piety of the temple nor the priests. She gave because it was in her heart to give. She gave the amount that was in her heart to give. Of all the people she was singled out because of the heart value not the financial value.
So whatever you and your family give, and no matter what form the giving takes, it is paramount that the heart value abound in the aspect of love.
For without love, it is possible to give and to excessively give, and it be of no value to the assembly or the giver.