Featured Remarriage: A Healing Gift of God?

First of all let me issue a disclaimer... There is NO perfect marriage... Marriage is two sided... If you have a one sided marriage something is wrong... Now to my story!
After watching my wife die of cancer and letting her go after 30 years of marriage I met another believer... I wanted a wife who already was one, not one that needed to be converted to be one... That is who I am and I wanted the same.
I wasn't looking to be married again but was just looking for someone to talk to... So I joined a Christian website... The 2nd woman I talked to, her and I just clicked... We talked for over 4 hours... She lived only 100 miles away so there were also visitation and during those conversations and visitation I found out she was divorced... In fact she had been divorced over 10 years... Her husband was in an adulterous affair while they were married and married the one he was in the adulterous affair with... So she was looking to be remarried again... One year after we met, we tied the knot and we have been married now over 13 years... No remarriage is the same but to me if certain boundaries are crossed there is merit in being remarried... What recourse does any one have after all the biblical steps have been followed to save the marriage have failed?... These are my thoughts... What are yours?... Brother Glen

 

That is called a citation, not a recommendation. Anyone who has ever written a paper at a college level knows about citing their sources, and you don't always have to agree with the source you are quoting. When I wrote a paper on Mormonism, I quoted from the Book or Mormon and that made it into my works cited page. It was not a recommendation of the book in any way shape or form. This kind of dishonesty on full display is another thing that needs to be repented of.

 

I ordered a (used) book that you mentioned earlier by Keener.
I've been busy reading books on the Gospel of Matthew recently and will be teaching it come October.
The book deals with topics that are sure to interest people in the class.
Keep working through your issues John.

God is faithful. Be like God.

Rob

 

"Ala carte" means to order individual items on a menu. Thus, "ala carte theology" means to pick and choose individual things that pleases you.

 

You must love controversy. Why do you care what anyone on here thinks? I have only been posting here a short while and have figured out your mind is like concrete, well mixed and firmly set. When I first got here, I felt sorry for you. I now think you thrive on confrontation.

 

Just like you get offended when people here use the Law to confront you of your sins toward your wife.
Matthew 19:9
Malachi 2:16
1 Cor 7:12

 

Evan, you remind me of myself 10 years ago. That's roughly the last time I posted here (my post history does not represent who I am in Christ today. You may look at it to see the work of grace God has done).

You need to stop looking at pornography, or you will go through the trials as I did, only recently being fully freed from the sins of my youth by the grace of God.

If your posts weren't dated, I'd think I'd found my own posts from 10 years back when I was into WOTM in a big way. It all came crashing down and for years I have lived in depression - condemned rightfully by the law, but found no grace in the teachings I was following.

I say this with concern and discernment and love. This is unrelated to your original post. Please spare yourself the chastisement.

 

No you just go to dating sites looking to commit adultery with someone on there in violation of Matthew 19:9

 

I used to declare that too. I was so self righteous in my doctrine, that I would dismiss lust, covetousness, licentious thoughts & desires because "I'm preaching the gospel in the streets".

How often do you have real conversations with people? Or does the shame stop you, and it's easier to stand back at a distance and declare the condemnation of God, but you're grace is only minor because you haven't experienced the true freedom that Jesus offers?

You keep visiting this forum seeking to be affirmed in your doctrine and decisions and base your acceptance with God on the doctrines of man.

 

You may not look at porn. There is a good chance you do. Statistics don't lie. I wasn't above lying about it 10 years ago. Here was my reasoning

"I want to encourage others to share the gospel. Some of them are probably false converts. But maybe I am? I struggle with porn. I can't admit it because then they would accuse me of the things I am accusing them of. So I'll lie about it and justify if because it's for the gospel and people will think I am an on fire evangelist for God."

That was my thought process. It led through a very humbling process.

"But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."

 

I didn't know Larry had gone over to the UMC; for many years he was a Southern Baptist!