I think we have to be mindful that no one is saying Jesus did not experience God's wrath in the context that bearing our sins He suffered the consequences of sin in the flesh.I too have been confused at some of the responses as well as the responses to the posts of the "retributive" series.
The following "wrath" and "punishment" is part of that which Jesus Christ took upon Himself which He did not deserve but which we (all humanity) richly deserve.
Isaiah 13
9 Behold, the day of the LORD cometh, cruel both with wrath and fierce anger, to lay the land desolate: and he shall destroy the sinners thereof out of it.
10 For the stars of heaven and the constellations thereof shall not give their light: the sun shall be darkened in his going forth, and the moon shall not cause her light to shine.
11 And I will punish the world for their evil, and the wicked for their iniquity; and I will cause the arrogancy of the proud to cease, and will lay low the haughtiness of the terrible.
I believe that the gospel of Jesus Christ receiving the wrath of God as our substitute shows us the horror of sin against God yet also reflects His great love for us in that He offered His Son to receive that wrath.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
John 3:36 He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.
Isaiah 53
5 But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
HankD
But taking this to the point God angrily punished Christ as if He were us exceeds what Scripture states. Yes, it may play towards highlighting Gods love for mankind and yes it may play towards illustrating the horrors of sin, but at the same time it diminishes God's love for His Righteous thereby diminishing His love for those whose hope is in Him.
Scripture simply doesn't need our help. We don't need to a add theory to what is said in God's Word. The simple fact that the God who loves is the God who gives of Himself is more than human theory can express.