Perhaps it would be best to look at 2 Corinthians 5 and see if you both need to consider a very slight adjustment into closer agreement.
1For we know that if
the earthly tent which is our house is torn down, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.
2For indeed
in this house we groan, longing to be clothed with our dwelling from heaven,
Just as was the Word in bodily form.
3inasmuch as
we, having put it on, will not be found naked. 4For indeed
while we are in this tent, we groan, being burdened, because we do not want to be unclothed but to be clothed, so that what is mortal will be swallowed up by life.
5Now He who prepared us for this very purpose is God, who gave to us the Spirit as a pledge.
The BODY that clothed the Word was in such a state: As Hebrew paraphrasing the statements of Psalm 40 states, "...a body you prepared for me."
6Therefore, being always of good courage, and knowing that while
we are at home in the body we are absent from the Lord—
7for we walk by faith, not by sight—
8we are of good courage, I say, and prefer rather to be
absent from the body and to be at home with the Lord. 9Therefore we also have as our ambition, whether at home or absent, to be pleasing to Him.
10For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may be recompensed for his deeds in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad.
11Therefore, knowing the fear of the Lord, we persuade men, but we are made manifest to God; and I hope that we are made manifest also in your consciences.
12We are not again commending ourselves to you but
are giving you an occasion to be proud of us, so that you will have
an answer for those who take pride in appearance and not in heart.
13For if we are beside ourselves, it is for God; if we are of sound mind, it is for you.
14For the love of Christ controls us, having concluded this, that one died for all, therefore all died;
Just as The Christ stated, I do and say what the Father does and speaks ( John 5:19, 12:50)
15and
He died for all, so t
hat they who live might no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.
Paul also believed in unlimited atonement, but limited redemption.
16Therefore from now on we recognize no one according to the flesh; even though
we have known Christ according to the flesh, yet now we know Him in this way no longer.
17Therefore if anyone is
in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.
18Now all
these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation,
19namely, that
God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation.
Supper important to recognize that it was in fact God in Christ that reconciled us to HIMSELF, not to Christ, not to the Spirit, but to God. Though the trinity stand as three persons as the very unity, the reconciliation of God to humankind was not an act alone by any one member of the trinity.
This is one reason the typical teaching of the wrath of God poured out upon Christ is a failed teaching. The thinking actually makes of God some monster of split personality. Paul in the above statement refutes such teaching.
20Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ,
as though God were making an appeal through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.
21He made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
Sometimes in the statements on posts, one will take the 21st verse as if it is a stand alone statement.
Rather it is formulated based upon first the form of humanity, then the form of humanity in complete unique unity with God (Christ), then it shows that believers are also as Christ in that unique new creation that is specific to heavenly estate, then it shows that ALL this was from God, by God, and through God.
Sometimes in reading, I find my self perplexed that folks want to separate the God into little packages that do not mingle as if eggs, oil, water, and mix blended together do not make a cake!
Jesus IS God, the Holy Spirit IS God, the Father IS God. God is ONE God, not three just as the Scriptures state: "Here oh Israel, the Lord our God is ONE" Deut. 6:4 and repeated in Mark 12, restated in John 10 as "I and the Father are ONE," and Paul says in Romans 3 "there is ONE God."
Ok, I just thought it important in the discussion on attributes that everyone come to agreement that God is inseparable.
The work of redemption, the work of the Cross was the work of God. It was NOT God punishing himself, or taking on some wrath, but that work of reconciliation.
Most folks cling to the RCC thinking of the wrath of God needing some sort of remedy.
As if God needs some remedy to resolve some human issue!