Featured Whats wrong with Calvinists ?

Now to be clear i do hold to eternal security. Not the Calvinist version of it ( based on ' election ' ) . But After we believe we are sealed by the Holy Spirit until the day of redemption. We cannot be unsealed .
So my post is about why there is no Joy in Calvinism . I first noticed this from listening to Paul washer . I could not understand why he had such anguish in his face and why so much railing and ranting towards his listeners on right living and the dangers of false teachings ect . But then we see this in Piper and Macarthur . A solem and anguished demeaneor. Why does Paul washer sound like his listeners can lose their salvation? or that they need to beware of false teachings ? Why do calvinists preach like an Arminian . As if there ' right living ' is necessary for keeping ones salvation and not walking away .
You could easily be mistaking with such teachers as Paul washer that they hold to loss of salvation through their heavy emphasis on works . Just like we hear from the likes of David Pawson . Infact if you put some of the content of Paul washer ( ect ) and David pawson( Arminain ) some of it would sound the same on perseverance. What gives ? If you are one of the elect ,where is the Joy ? why the Anguish? no more or no less people will be saved and can do nothing about it . Its all determined . An elect person cannot be lost . But why do you live as if you can be lost . Why are your preachers ,preaching like an arminain on works ?
Thoughts?

 

Why with such great pains ? The ' election 'has already taken place

But they will heed the call and will be saved ( the elect) why are they preaching like the Arminain?

 

But they will come according to their doctrines. Are they kinda living in such a way inspite of what they teach ? Dying men to dying men ? Isn't it a bit like when your trying to locate your car in a large car park and your aiming your key fob hoping it will find the right one ?

 

Isnt it all of God ?

 

I don't see that the gulf is vast. The thinking and outcome is the same. I could put David pawson and Paul washer side by side preaching, and as long as they didn't specifically mention certain topics on doctrines we'd struggle to spot the difference .