OLD SARGE
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Are You A “meet” Mate?
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Are You A "Meet" Mate?
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Advice to women.
If a man hates his mother, women should a avoid him. Once they become mothers, his animosity towards his mother will be projected onto you.
Women should avoid men that are emotional, but are stable, logical and control themselves, you are looking for a Vulcan. Men who maintain control of themselves and are logical are capable of make good decisions and be good responsible leaders. The guy must have a genuine prayer life over and above community prayer, because he will be the spiritual head of your household and will be guided by God. Look for signs of bad temper, emotional maladjustment in times of stress.
Avoid men with no prospects, look for a man who has a trade or career path plan that can support a family, and he is good with money, and is neat and tidy and disciplined.
Look for a man who is selfless as possible.
Advice to men.
Women’s powerful gift is to be imprinted by her husband, but this gift is destroyed if she has had many partners before you. This accumulates trauma and her ability to pair bond with you and her trauma baggage will be hell to deal with. If you like challenges and mountains to climb, and you don’t mind dying or never seeing your kids go for it. Very high divorce rates, even among believers. A woman shows her loyalty before marriage.
Lowest divorce rates if you are first man in her life.
Avoid women who are diagnosed with mental illness, gamble, drink anything or have tattoos and strange piercings and dress immodestly, or spend inordinate money on hair, makeup, clothes, jewellery or shoes or much on themselves generally.
Avoid college educated women, divorce rates they bring are over 90%, avoid feminists, do I really need to spell this out, or older women they tend to imbalance the leadership dynamics.
Avoid career women, you and your family will always be just a sideshow to her ambitions.
Do not move into her house (if she has one) after marriage, it has to be fresh wineskin of a house when you start your life together.
Avoid women that talk about their “happiness” as priority. Marriage is about duty not happiness, if they don’t understand that, then stay far away. Happiness is a byproduct of virtuous achievement, no one can make anyone happy. You are not here to make her happy.
Remember this well. No woman will love you unconditionally, it’s not their job. Only your mother will love you unconditionally, that’s her job.
A husband has to sacrifice himself for his wife and the children like Christ for the Church, not the wife for the husband. God so ordered this.
Look for a young lady exuding great maternal instincts, childcare worker is good place to start. She will be Christian and have a good Christian upbringing and display virtues of modesty, prudence and thrift. She will be a virgin ideally and will not have had rebellious phase, but whose only real ambition is to be a mother. She will be feminine, not loud mouthed, opinionated or childish. She will have had a strong father figure in her life, and be comfortable with paternal order.
There is a ton more I could add but that’s a good start.
If a man hates his mother, women should a avoid him. Once they become mothers, his animosity towards his mother will be projected onto you.
Women should avoid men that are emotional, but are stable, logical and control themselves, you are looking for a Vulcan. Men who maintain control of themselves and are logical are capable of make good decisions and be good responsible leaders. The guy must have a genuine prayer life over and above community prayer, because he will be the spiritual head of your household and will be guided by God. Look for signs of bad temper, emotional maladjustment in times of stress.
Avoid men with no prospects, look for a man who has a trade or career path plan that can support a family, and he is good with money, and is neat and tidy and disciplined.
Look for a man who is selfless as possible.
Advice to men.
Women’s powerful gift is to be imprinted by her husband, but this gift is destroyed if she has had many partners before you. This accumulates trauma and her ability to pair bond with you and her trauma baggage will be hell to deal with. If you like challenges and mountains to climb, and you don’t mind dying or never seeing your kids go for it. Very high divorce rates, even among believers. A woman shows her loyalty before marriage.
Lowest divorce rates if you are first man in her life.
Avoid women who are diagnosed with mental illness, gamble, drink anything or have tattoos and strange piercings and dress immodestly, or spend inordinate money on hair, makeup, clothes, jewellery or shoes or much on themselves generally.
Avoid college educated women, divorce rates they bring are over 90%, avoid feminists, do I really need to spell this out, or older women they tend to imbalance the leadership dynamics.
Avoid career women, you and your family will always be just a sideshow to her ambitions.
Do not move into her house (if she has one) after marriage, it has to be fresh wineskin of a house when you start your life together.
Avoid women that talk about their “happiness” as priority. Marriage is about duty not happiness, if they don’t understand that, then stay far away. Happiness is a byproduct of virtuous achievement, no one can make anyone happy. You are not here to make her happy.
Remember this well. No woman will love you unconditionally, it’s not their job. Only your mother will love you unconditionally, that’s her job.
A husband has to sacrifice himself for his wife and the children like Christ for the Church, not the wife for the husband. God so ordered this.
Look for a young lady exuding great maternal instincts, childcare worker is good place to start. She will be Christian and have a good Christian upbringing and display virtues of modesty, prudence and thrift. She will be a virgin ideally and will not have had rebellious phase, but whose only real ambition is to be a mother. She will be feminine, not loud mouthed, opinionated or childish. She will have had a strong father figure in her life, and be comfortable with paternal order.
There is a ton more I could add but that’s a good start.
OLD SARGE
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More advice to women.
Attraction
Ladies, attract a man with your heart and mind,
Not with the size of your bosom or behind.
Many a man will be glad to hit it
Then turn around and gladly forget it.
You want a man that will gladly stay
Until it’s his or your dying day.
7/12/25
Attraction
Ladies, attract a man with your heart and mind,
Not with the size of your bosom or behind.
Many a man will be glad to hit it
Then turn around and gladly forget it.
You want a man that will gladly stay
Until it’s his or your dying day.
7/12/25
OLD SARGE
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Sadly, your advice to men leaves pretty much only foreign women. Most Americans fit your description of who to run from. Marriage has become a bartering rather than a partnering. Men see it as a bad deal as many women will stay ten years so she can get a piece of his retirement and then take half of what he has and turn his kids against him.
Overall I see feminism as being designed to prevent marriage and children so we can get to the sustainable population of 500,000,000 that men like Gates want. Only seems to be working with those of European descent. Other groups are having large families. Add birth control, abortion, pandemics, wars and at some point the euthanasia of "useless eaters" since they are now offering to put down those with Mental Health issues in some places and it would get to that number if Christ was not coming back to intervene. May even be a part of what they strongly promote the gay lifestyle since the cannot reproduce.
If I were young and single, I would head to Asia for a wife or the back hills of other countries where a woman would just be content with a man who would love and care for them. Indeed, the change in lifestyle would make her feel like she married a rich man.
I also tell men to marry the 5/6 girl, not the 10. 10s are high maintenance and far more apt to cheat or take a man for all that he has. I tell the women the same. The 5/6 man will be so thrilled to have a 7/8 he will do all he can to keep her. Besides there are far more 5/6 men and women to choose from than 10s.
Overall I see feminism as being designed to prevent marriage and children so we can get to the sustainable population of 500,000,000 that men like Gates want. Only seems to be working with those of European descent. Other groups are having large families. Add birth control, abortion, pandemics, wars and at some point the euthanasia of "useless eaters" since they are now offering to put down those with Mental Health issues in some places and it would get to that number if Christ was not coming back to intervene. May even be a part of what they strongly promote the gay lifestyle since the cannot reproduce.
If I were young and single, I would head to Asia for a wife or the back hills of other countries where a woman would just be content with a man who would love and care for them. Indeed, the change in lifestyle would make her feel like she married a rich man.
I also tell men to marry the 5/6 girl, not the 10. 10s are high maintenance and far more apt to cheat or take a man for all that he has. I tell the women the same. The 5/6 man will be so thrilled to have a 7/8 he will do all he can to keep her. Besides there are far more 5/6 men and women to choose from than 10s.
I don’t know. If I was a young Protestant man, I would join the Amish. I have had all the skills and tools to be useful and productive.
If you could handle all politics of which suspenders don’t breech the Ordnung, why not.
One of the big problems with the Amish is genetic diversity, increasingly their children are be born munted, or requiring lifetime special medical.
Everyone knows their roles, works hard and prays and supports one another. Find a wife in there young fellas and have a big God fearing family, and working hard, you will stay fit and strong.
OLD SARGE
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I once considered being a Mennonite, but I am retired military and hold other doctrines that prevented that. I did once speak with a group of them and they liked what I said about 1 Cor 11.
Indeed, since the Amish have their "free time" where anything goes I am surprised they did not suggest that during the fling the women come back pregnant to introduce some diversity. Some Mennonites have gone so far off the rails it is sad so for the Amish to rogue is not outside of the realm of possibly.
Was it the pacifism that didn’t square?
For me I could handle the pacifism, but not having the Eucharist would have been impossible.
Shunning seems to be the secret of the stronger communities apparently.
Men are told love their wives.
Women aren’t told to love their husbands, they are told to submit to their husbands.
Generally women can’t love idealistically, it’s rare for a woman to sacrifice her life for a man. But it is common for men to sacrifice their life for a woman, it’s innate and comes naturally to them. And it is expected that a man step in to protect a woman who is even a stranger to him.
Huge numbers of men die each year to protect women they don’t even know. Women get ultimate self sacrificial love from men who owe them nothing.
Women expect this sacrificial love and are shocked when they don’t get it.
“ I was attacked on the train, and no men came to help “
She won’t say “ no other women came to help “ even though there were 50 other women on the train.
It is just expected that a man risk his life and die, sacrificing all his hopes and dreams, even seeing his kids faces again, to protect a women who is a stranger. Men are the disposable sex today, because they are naturally sacrificial.
Feminists still expect men to be disposable, but they cannot even give their obedience or submission in return.
Marxist feminism has taken the good God given trait of male self sacrifice, and turned it into pure disposability.