Galatians 5:15
But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.
So you insist that western culture defines church by the building? I’ve never seen it and only heard the opposite. But they were still assembling together. They were added to their church in Acts. That means their assembly not their building.
Okay?? That was vague and not productive.
It isn’t the building that I have been advocating for the entire time. It’s where your assembly meets.
And if you all want to stand in the rain, it’s been done before. You won’t be excommunicated.

But church (assembly) is not “a buddy of mine wants to go out for coffee this morning.”
There is a weird group of people who believe that if you have a building that you are not a church or could be apostate and worshipping your building. Apparently that is where you are. You have become exactly what you say you are bothered by. You are legalistic, or maybe even worse, if you know what that means.
There are still some of us who don’t care about your meeting place just so long as when the rest of your church is meeting you are with them unless it’s not possible.
Paul met believers by the river. You want to meet by a river, go ahead. But don’t kid yourself. Spirit meetings are an invention of your own mind to justify your desire to stay away from people who you don’t like. It sounds like you need to get back into Matthew 5 and consider the “western church” your enemy so that you can love them again.
By your own posts, it is clear that you have really missed the point of an assembly.