I have to agree with Dar on this one. I attended an IB church for years and the do's and don'ts were so heavy. I got to be so worried about how I lived, what I looked like, what I thought (and if anybody could tell by my actions what I thought...), and most of all HOW I DRESSED, that I did not hear much about the UNCONDITIONAL love of Jesus. I got so worried that the Lord would "put me on a shelf" (as that particular preacher put it) for not looking right, acting right, talking right, etc. that it just made me crazy... I felt like I could not be myself. Don't misunderstand, I'm not a loose dresser, use dirty languange or any of that, but I think I put so much pressure on myself to "do right" I could not hear the voice of the Holy Sprit to guide and convict me when needed; I was thinking more on what the preacher preached about that Sunday and making sure I didn't miss anything... and more concerned with what others would think of me when they saw me -this was in a very small town. We moved from that town 27 months ago and I've been out of church ever since. I'm trying to find a "good" church, but I'm so "steeped" or is it "trained" in fundamentalism and I'm having a difficult time with the new church search. It seems that every church I visit, I see so many things "wrong" (who am I, anyway...?) I think that's the way this IB preacher was, that man could find something wrong with a blade of grass. Oh well, enough for now... thanks for listening. k