If you think it is just a matter of your autonomous will evaluating the proposed promises of the gospel then no, I can't agree with that.
And if you think there is any way to claim "fairness" by our definition in the way Amalekites and Israelites were dealt with in scripture then go for it. What I think is happening is you are showing how you are influenced by current culture and trying to preserve some dignity for yourself in that you at least had the good sense to choose wisely.
According to your theology, it would be wrong, and almost sinful to pray for someone to be saved. After all. Do they or do they not already have the same equal chance as you to get saved. Then let them do it or not, according to their choice.
You know as well as I do that that is not the way it really works so to charge that all Calvinism is is refurbished Manicheism is ridiculous. Scripture is what says you were bought with a price and are not your own, not Greek philosophy.
Dave how many times must I repeat this before you actually understand it. God is sovereign and in His sovereignty He has chosen to give man a free will with which to make real choices regarding his salvation. God has set the condition of salvation, faith/trust in Him. God will save those that trust in Him those that reject Him will be lost. Man does not save himself, God saves.
What did you not understand about
"As for fairness, no, I would say that
all should be treated equally, with equal justice. That is what we see in scripture.
Fair has nothing to do with it, God is just."
GOD IS NOT FAIR HE IS JUST. Is that clear enough for you? It seems you need someone to think God is fair so you can build a strawman argument to justify your view. If so you will need to find someone else to accuse as it is a false accusation of what I think.
Where do you come up with these silly ideas? Of course I pray for people to come to salvation. God can and does use various means to influence people but in the end it is still the person that has to make the choice. As for all humanity having an equal chance to know God, well according to scripture they do so they have no excuse. But I have to ask why do you have such a low view of the love and sovereignty of God?
Now from you Calvinist perspective I can see why you would not pray about anything as in your theology God has determined everything that will happen. So I can see Calvinists just sit back and do nothing as it has all been determined in advance. So under Calvinism equal does not exist. Since you keep using the term I can see the charge of God not being "fair" {free from bias, dishonesty, or injustice:} leveled against Calvinism.
"God hath decreed in himself, from all eternity, by the most wise and holy counsel of His own will, freely and unchangeably, all things, whatsoever comes to pass "
"Those whom God hath predestinated unto life, He is pleased in His appointed, and accepted time, effectually to call "
"This effectual call is of God's free and special grace alone ...being wholly passive therein ...
he is thereby enabled to answer this call " LBCF
You can protest all you want but the reality is that Calvinism is just modified Manicheism. Augustine brought pagan philosophy into the church and Calvin just carried it forward and it is still the basis of Calvinist/reformed/PB theology.
Yes we are bought with a price and scripture is clear that all can be saved but Calvinism turns that on it's ear with their TULIP and determinism the basis of which comes from pagan philosophy.
GOD IS NOT FAIR HE IS JUST. So please get that straight.