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A Brother offended.....pt.2

JonC

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A few more thoughts...

Message boards have a way of exposing people with thin skin. These type of people are often self-offended. They invent ways to be offended. This is not a theological problem, it is a personality problem. No amount of reasoning will change the perception of your words with these individuals. They are a lot like Donald Trump. As long as you are agreeing with me, fine. Disagree? I am offended. What is almost worse are those people who know this personality trait exists with certain posters, but egg them on. We should not seek to exasperate a problem that we know exists.
Bottom line is that 99 percent of the time we don't even know the other people. These are just words on a virtual page....ideas....and it is these words, ideas, and expressions we deal with. There is no need for people to get offended by the words of others, but we would do well to realize words here are expressions of ourselves. What I find offensive at times is the expressed character of people on this board, to include myself. This is where we should step in and pull a brother back. When we insult or attack other people, our intent turns back on us as we expose absolutely nothing of our "opponent" but instead reveal much about our own character and weaknesses.



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Benjamin

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How about a pot & kettle emoticon? For when someone moans about some type of conduct when they were doing the same thing two posts back.


kettlepot.gif


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TCassidy

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I have looked at all the new emoticons offered and like them all. But I can't help but notice there is one missing.

Does anyone have one of a guy hanging from a telephone wire with his pants on fire? :D :D :D
 

JonC

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I have looked at all the new emoticons offered and like them all. But I can't help but notice there is one missing.

Does anyone have one of a guy hanging from a telephone wire with his pants on fire? :D :D :D
I bet Benjamin does.

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Rob_BW

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I have looked at all the new emoticons offered and like them all. But I can't help but notice there is one missing.

Does anyone have one of a guy hanging from a telephone wire with his pants on fire? :D :D :D

liar.gif



Found this pic while I was searching, talk about a bad day:
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Benjamin

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I have looked at all the new emoticons offered and like them all. But I can't help but notice there is one missing.

Does anyone have one of a guy hanging from a telephone wire with his pants on fire? :D :D :D

Best I can do:
liar.gif


Not sure one exists, but please don't take it too harshly!

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poncho

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Poncho, I realize that my tone can easily be mistook in my writings on a forum. I tried to explain my reasoning just like you have asked, I even went into depth but obviously I have continued to offend you which becomes pretty apparent when someone starts off their reply the way you just did, so for offending I’ll apologize.





Now you have started out asking me another question while bringing up my critical thinking skills in a way to be insulting while putting words into my mouth to assign a sort of arrogant elitism, which you should probably admit, to be truthful, is clearly meant to be a personal attack. To be honest, I can be very patient and forgiving to people that are attacking me while explaining my reasoning to them, but I hesitate to answer it here because I suspect you’re more interested in a fight than listening to me break down your “argument’s” sentence structure into premises, claims and issues as per critical thinking skills and get down to the truths about it.


Here is my thinking, your first premise (after opening your “argument” by throwing out an Ad hominem and an attempt to “poison the well”) is about my goal trying to draw out the truth. …So, first I look at the message (premise) you opened with, which is about “how I think I’m all that” and then I think about your claims and issues after coming to the obvious conclusion that your opening is clearly demonstrating some frustration here.


I know the best course is, if I want to get to the truths, is to forego personal attacks and get to the claims and issues.


Therefore, your first issue being, “Wow dude you sure do use a lot of words to say” is also sending messages about the subject, such as perhaps the “truth” of which I presume we agree the goal should be to draw out, is that you’re not sincerely interested in the argument(s) being broke down.

The practical response here, then, is to probably just consider that it is illogical for you to suggest that I can break down and explain an argument in detail without using a lot of words, which isn’t a very rational request. But, if you really want to get into CTS (critical thinking skills) to draw out the truth that’s where it begins.


The second issue you bring up begins by putting words into my mouth ("I'm the smartest most critical thinking guy on the board") that are meant to suggest I’m an arrogant elitist rather than simply sharing ideas. Just how you expect me to answer that is anything but bringing about an attempt to begin a reasonable discussion.


But frankly, I see your opening argument for what it is (an offensive rhetorical device containing an Ad Hominem) and rather than being offending and getting my emotions all stirred up about it and striking back with all the offensive rhetoric I can muster I feel have more important things to consider. Such as, not getting caught up in a “street fight” argument and would rather actually attempt to answer some of your questions.


Pertaining to drawing out the truth with CTS and “belittling your source and laughing at you”, although, the credibility of your source is fair game in a true debate there are certainly better ways to go about the objective of questioning your source. I used a comical demonstration (a rhetorical horse laugh) about something (such as offering a lead to a news story that might be stereotypically turned into hyper sensationalism) which seemed humorous to me considering the environment of the discussion I was getting involved in, which I wasn’t really considering anyone there having the goals of drawing out the truth in a real debate (why I typically stayed far away from that forum for the 10+ years when I posted more regularly here), so frankly, I wasn’t taking the conversion very seriously. Although, I generally try to stay away from the personal attacks regardless I thought I was going with the flow and keeping it lighthearted with a little humor but apparently you took it as me being offensive.





We have both been here 12 years and I would guess have had at least a dozen exchanges in that time. I have seen the “conspiracy theorist” thrown around with you countless times and figured you knew me well enough to know I was laughing with you and not at you on that subject of your source.






You were either offended or you were not.


You brought that discussion into this thread for a reason, (I'll leave the truth behind that to you) and after my reply started your next response on the attack while accusing me of being condescending throughout your post and, now, I really don’t expect any explanation, no matter how gentle I try to be, that I give you will go by without you taking it and making endless claims that it or I are an offensive to you.


Back to the beginning, I took the time to collect a smilie to help communicate the message that I was merely having a “horse laugh” with you and honestly didn’t think you would find it offensive. But, I’m not going to allow this escalate any further and think it better to just offer my apology for my oversights which made you feel you had a score to settle.


Be blessed.

I have no recollection of ever having a conversation with you before. As far I know this is our first interaction. It seemed like you were coming "out of the blue" to have fun at my expense then tried to impress me or your self with your "superior intellect". I do take offense to that. I don't consider anyone inferior to me and see no reason why I should be talked to as if I were inferior.

One of the things that I find interesting on this board is the people who normally tell me I lack critical thinking skills and call me a "conspiracy theroist"" are the same ones who consistently rule out evidence or information before they even consider it.

Take the person who, and there are many that will rule out evidence or information by claiming a source has a "bias". Example, "that source is a liberal therefore nothing they say is true" or visa versa "that source is conservative therefore nothing they say is true".

I fail to see how that can rightly be called critical thinking. To my mind one who will refuse to consider evidence or information based on another's bias isn't interested in finding the truth at all.

They are more interested in protecting a long held belief or paradigm that's been formed through a consistent rejection of evidence or information that threatens their belief or paradigm.

I've done a fairly in depth study of propaganda so I can recognize it when I see it. Most people won't take the time to do that.

Now, I understand that our "education system" is geared to turn out compliant workers who won't question authority and will dutifully follow orders instead of critical thinking individuals. So I understand how difficult it is for them to do something they have little or no training in but to have them tell me my critical thinking skills are lacking because I don't think like them is frustrating to say the least.

One cannot "draw out the truth" if they are rejecting evidence or information before it's been seen or heard. Sorry but that's not critical thinking. That's "stinking thinking".

Rejecting evidence or information to protect a paradigm is not critical thinking. Rejecting evidence or information because it comes from outside one's group or circle is not critical thinking.

Being open to new ideas evidence and information while having the ability to recognize propaganda and bias for what it is and "reading through it" and then doing the research to verify it or reject it is critical thinking.

Sadly this is not a skill that is not taught in school. Conforming to the consensus is being taught. Group think is being taught.

Not thinking at all is being taught. Look around this board there are people here who communicate in images and slogans.

It's extremely frustrating. It's like trying to carry on an adult conversation with a spoiled 2nd grader or Pee Wee Herman who think that have all the answers already and the way to deal with people who try to introduce them to new ideas evidence or information is to ridicule them.

I dunno Ben. I truly wonder if this generation is even capable of carrying on a discussion without being offended or offending another.
 

Jkdbuck76

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I'd like to remind everyone that we have an IGNORE function here.

Here is an idea.... read a simple debate here then read one on Puritanboard. I have found that they are capable of debating issues without making things personal.

At times, some of the comments made by some of the people here are on the Youtube Comments level....myself included.



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