Skandelon,
You mentioned of the passage that Jesus gaven the parable of Matt. 22:11-14, even, inlude whole context of Matt. 22:1-14 talking about invite them come to the wedding feast. This passage is very good and powerful.
Calvinists do actual have problem with this passage.
Calvinists believe God called them ALL as they are God's elect. Whilst they believe it is irresistible grace. They saying that Holy Spirit TOUCHES elect's heart immediately became saved without call or believe upon Christ. This is samiliar like total deparvity-all people CANNOT go to Christ because they are spiritually dead, unless TILL the Holy Spirit touches people to become saved. It sounds like being to force people to become saved without make decision & choice.
Matt. 22:1-14 clearly telling us, this passage give the picture of evangelism, telling us as servants go out to reach lost people, bny invite them to Christ for salvation. Obivously, Christ doesn't saying that he is force lost people to become saved. He only INVITED lost people for salvation. This passage teaching us that people do have choices.
By the way, Christ made the point - "Many called" means that ALL elects were saved in the first place. But, afterward, "Few chosen" means, few truly elects shall be made it at the end. Sadly, most of elects will not make it at the end.
In 2 Peter 1:10 says, "Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for IF ye do these things, ye shall never fall:"
The sad fact is, Jesus knows MOST of the elects will not make it at the end, will be end up in everlasting fire - Matt. 7:13-14. Only FEW remain of faithful elects will be make it at the end(enter into the door at the end of narrow road)- everlasting life. Therefore, FEW are "chosen".
Clearly, Bible teaches us that our salvation is conditional.
In Christ
Rev. 22:20 -Amen!