It is good that you found a church where you can worship the Lord, and not constantly be irritated or worried about theological doctrine. That is one of the reasons I am glad to be a Baptist. Each church is autonomous, and sets their policies. You do not have to worry about a hierarchy handing down proclomations for all churches. What I do not understand, is with the freedom we have, why would you waste time worrying about a church that does not see things like you do? It is kind of like the verse in the Bible telling you to dust off your shoes and move on.
You seem to be hung up on the doctrines of sovereignty and grace. There are churches that emphasize both sides. I serve in a church that is about half and half. We have a great fellowship, and there are no bad feelings about the issue. Personally, I am on the reformed side, but would not serve in a church that insisted on that belief or any other belief, other than Jesus Christ is Lord, God, Savior, and King, that the Bible is the Inspired Word of God, that our main reason to be here is to tell others about the Gospel, and Biblical baptism. I may have left out some, but you get that idea.
I stay away from local churches that major in Bible versions, only certain types of end time theology, etc. May the Lord bless you in your new found ministry.
To answer your question directly, when I married my wife over 20 years now, I was a lapsed Catholic & she was Reformed (Scottish from the old sod where they are all Covenant Reformed people) so my wife led me down that path of Reformed Theology. I accepted it as the true faith & tried to build my life on it....that is until I discovered things detestable about the people I was later dealing with. The bottom line is there is bondage to religion out there & your right, all you need to do is recognize it & move on. The interesting thing is that it was my brother who was patient with me & pulled me outa there (Being a Baptist Minister). Also, after seeing what my wife & I went through, her entire family has renounced them & moved to churches that are much more humble and use the bible as their primary reference point. So I guess that having gone through it all, practicing discernment & exposing them has great value in finding the true Christ & His Kingdom. Now here is some irony for you," what the English could not do for years i.e. convert my wifes family from reformed faith by coercion, persecution etc; the reformers did by themselves through their legalism. Thanks Guys!! LOL:godisgood: