RTG when someone has had a bad experence with something or someone. It becomes real to them. The Bible doesn't say we should not judge. ( thats another topic ) The Bible says to test ALL things to see if they are from God.
I know for a fact that NOT all IFB are the way the churches I have experenced. In fact the first baptist church I went to ( the conservative one ) was a IFB church BUT the Pastor way before I had even attended LEARNED that alot of what he was taught ( legalism ) was WRONG. He spoke from the Bible and let Gods word and the Holy Spirit do the convicting. He didn't stand up there and say this is wrong don't do it, unless the Bible CLEARY said something was wrong, like fornication.
Even though they wished ALL women wore dresses it was NEVER preached about, but the women learders were EXAMPLES. So you knew that is what was prefered.
See the difference ? When it comes to gray areas we have liberity in Christ, when the Bible calls sin, sin it is WRONG, when the Bible is SILENT so shall we be.