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Become one flesh

Discussion in '2005 Archive' started by Plain ol' Ralph, Oct 11, 2004.

  1. AVL1984

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    Guile, Ralph? Guile? Isn't it you who is full of guile? Again, an unsubstantive response from Ralph. Look who's the one making "mad" icons. Shows who can and cannot control themselves. Sorry, Ralph, but you ARE the weakest link.
     
  2. Karen

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    Dear Ralph,

    When all is said, it seems to me that in this thread there have been two sides expressed.

    Yours in which you say Jesus corrected Moses,
    that only some of Moses' decrees in the Pentateuch came from God. That we have to figure out which part of Moses to accept.
    Your argument rests on saying that Jesus did not accept some of Moses' words.

    My view in which I believe Moses' words in the Bible are ALL authoritative from God, and the Lord Jesus allowed an exception clause. Paul, later, speaking under apostolic authority from God, explained further. But ALL was from God, and does not contradict each other.

    Karen
     
  3. bonniej

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    I started reading this thread and almost wished I hadn't, because it has not made me feel real good about myself.
    I believe what all of you have said about what the Bible says about marriage. God meant for it to last a life time, man was supposed to cleave to his wife and leave his parents. And not only that, but he is supposed to love his wife as Christ loves the church. I'm nos sure if any of us can conceive how much that really is. I was married for 26 yrs to a man who was a controller, browbeater and suicide threatner to get his way. I can't tell you how many times we fought over the gun and I'm surprised one of us was not killed. We lost a child and after that I didn't have it in me to be able to stand up to him when I needed to. I went back to school at the age of 40 and beame an LPN because he wanted me to work. He would not go to church after our son was killed except on rare occassions. My life with him was not a happy one and it took me 26 yrs. to realize that I could not keep doing it or one of us was going wind up dead. we are both Christians so that's what makes it worse. Now I will say that we received counselling at times through all this but the day I left, I knew that God was giving me an out and I took it. I knew that day that I would not return to my marriage. Now I have to ask, are we married in the eyes of God if we marry someone that God did not want us to marry? I know we say vows but when there's such misery in a marriage, I can't help but wonder if that couple was truly married in the eyes of God. It took me along time not to be angry because I knew that marriage was not supposd to be as ours was. For those of us who believe marriage is for a lifetime, divorce is not easy. It's was very hard because it went against everything I believed in. I really never expected to marry again or ever have another MAN in my life. I did some things after my divorce that I am not proud of and I won't go into that, but I went to a divorce care class and met the man that I am married to now. Even though we disagree, at timss,I can talk to him and not worry about him getting angry over something that doesn't amount to a hill of beans. Do I believe we should have married? I can't answer that. The Bible says it's wrong, yet everything is not ever so black and white. We had a very "hot" discussion,in Sunday School I got up and left in tears. If you have not gone through a divorce, then you don't have a clue how devastating it is and how people seem to look down on you because you have been divorced. I'm sure it's guilt on our part even though we know that God forgives all. I do have to ask this question - since divorce is wrong and remarrying is wrong - should we then divorce our spouses and not ever remarry until one or both of our spouses die?
    I know what the Bible says so I don't need anyone to give me the scriptures on it. As I have said, I hate it just as God does but I have done it, I can't undo it but I can ask for forgiveness just as we all need to do for any sin that is committed.
     
  4. Plain ol' Ralph

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    Karen, I didn't say Jesus "corrected" Moses (as in the Mosaic law as handed down from God), but He did show where Moses (the man) only allowed the breaking of the marriage vow due to the hardness of a man's heart, BUT, Jesus clearly shows us that was wrong, simply because sin lieth at the door. Jesus FULFILLED, not took anything away, or added to.

    Just stop, take a deep breath, and think: does divorce give an attitude of forgivng in nature, or the obverse?
     
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    SisterBonnie,the re-marriage ACT is what is referred to as adultry, not the admission of that sin and then it being continual adultry as the emotional types LOVE to express in their rectitude towards those who understand the Bible.

    Sin is forgivable, the onlysin which is not is blaspheming the Holy Ghost/ saying NO! when the person knows it's God convicting them for any sin and they refuse to repent; re-marriage, though adultry, is forgivable, but every divorcee still has that in their life here on this earth to live with.
     
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    Hmmmmm? Thank you, Brother, is it true: for when I am weak, He is strong. [​IMG] [​IMG] :D [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
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    Ralph, doesn't seem to me like you understand the Bible. It does, however, seem you like to take a put your own little twists to the doctrines taught, especially when you try to negate the words of Jesus Christ. Remarriage is not sin in all cases. You have yet to prove your case. Instead you've relied on ad hominem attacks, "cute" (not really) little throwbacks to avoid the subject. But, then, what would we expect from someone who truly has no answer?
     
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    Ah, yes, you are definitely the final authority in any matter, huh? Especially since you cannot remain civil in a discussion and w/o playing the "hurt little angel".

    Sir, you pervert scripture and even set the LORD against Himself and demoralize His PERFECT character, shame!!!
     
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    You attack, Ralph, but you show no proof. I'm not playing a "hurt little angel". Can't you make any substantive posts? I in no way pervert the scriptures, and they are MY final authority. Prove your allegations against me, or retract them. You can't handle the words of Christ, that is not my problem. I have in no wise set the Lord against himself, though you have in stating that Jesus corrected Moses, implying that God was wrong when the 5 books of Moses were written. Sad. Very sad.
    Now, if you have nothing of substance to add and just continued unfounded attacks, then why not close this thread?
     
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    [personal attack snipped]

    [ November 27, 2004, 05:44 PM: Message edited by: Dr. Bob ]
     
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    Again, another unsubstantiated assault on my character from Ralph, and an unsubstantive post from him. Ralph, you are in no wise rebuking me, but you are continuing to make yourself look foolish. You like to reprove noone, just argue. You can yap all you like, I will no longer be answering your unsubstantive posts and assaults on others and myself. You've in no way proven your point scripturally (though you've tried to twist scripture to fit your point), and you have a lot to learn. I have better things to do with my time than to play childish games with you. Grow up Ralph, and act like a man.
     
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    Uh, no, friend, it is not an "attack", though I am sure you would love for anyone to think it is.

    [personal attack snipped]

    It seems you are unable to determine what it is the Spirit saith beyond the limits you yourself have set presumably to avoid the conflict of what the Truth has instore for error: REPROOF.

    Maybe you can explain for us all how that God institued marriage as earthly binding two separate souls together to become ONE FLESH, then how He somehow negates Himself according to the sin of men in His ordination of the matrimonial aspects and somehow bows Himself down to man's demands?

    BUT, it seems you cannot do anything more than take one phrase out of it's context, form a "doctrine", and still you fail to see where Jesus stated the Law and then gave the fulfillment of that Law and it's post-emptive recourse as re-marriage becoming adultry in every case, including the previous adultry which you seem to think negates the Law of God.

    [personal attack snipped]

    I haven't "assaulted" anyone, you're still just playing games and unable to answer according to the facts. Go hide in your little cocoon, friend, one day the moth will break out.

    [personal attack snipped]

    Good Day, and May God richly bless you in all knowledge and wisdom according to His Holy Bible. ;) [​IMG]

    [ November 27, 2004, 05:48 PM: Message edited by: Dr. Bob ]
     
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    Ralph. Warning. Attacking a fellow poster (and making vile attacks on his marriage) is winning you only a suspension of posting privileges.

    We do not allow such attacks.
     
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    Lest anyone just joint this thread, let me share that Ralph's view is held by many Baptists. Wrong and unscriptural imho, but held dogmatically nonetheless. My chiding Ralph about personal attacks (which we all do on occasion) has nothing to do with his right to hold that position.

    Obviously many other Baptists understand the concept of divorce as Moses, Jesus and Paul clearly taught it, and the legitimacy of remarriage after a legitimate biblical divorce.
     
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    Oh, I see, what I said is looked at as an attack, but avl is free and clear with full liberty to attack me at will?

    But there is no "legitimate biblical divorce", the remarriage is the sin of adultry.

    Why is it in Duet 24 that the first putting seems to be allowed (NOT), but the sedcond is due to his hating her, but he certainly knew she had been previously married, but her uncleaness is what "justified" his hardheartedness (NOT), but the second is when she is referred to as DEFILED, when all along her defilement was known to both the first and the latter?

    Couldn't it just be that word "may" means she MIGHT remarry and that her defilement was the second marriage vow? (YEP)

    And yer right [attack snipped], MANY Baptists still hold to sound Biblical teaching, sorry so many here do NOT. Which BTW Jesus told Moses, and Paul went further to explain to those who were definitely more carnal,along with and by the which many Baptists who only think they understand these passages hold to in the effort to justify their hardhearts as well, sadly so, and evidently true.

    [ November 30, 2004, 01:14 AM: Message edited by: Dr. Bob ]
     
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    Sorry to see you had to respond this way, I only supposed his marital condition, not made any attempyt to declare it, either way.

    I find you with the "VILE" attitude, Doc, just so you'd know.

    God Bless, and may the Lord grant you further wisdom and knowledge in all Biblical matters.
     
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    Let me go on record: I never look down on anyone who is divorced, or ever will be.

    Unlike others in here, I can still "look down" on the sin, but never the sinner.

    I can see the Truth is not welcomed here, the following is proof of just that:

    I do care what the Bible says, why don't you?

    I live by the Scriptures the best the Holy Ghost will guide me. GIVE ME SCRIPTURE!! I NEED IT!! But please don't take it out of context, neither let your emotions control your response.
     
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    Padre is a nickname coined by one of my church members who couldn't pronounce my first and last name together without stuttering. He could say Padre (short a, long e, emphasis on second syllable as in pad-REE) without trouble and the nickname stuck. I'm not offended by it, neither should you.

    Where does the "tar" come from? Did I miss something? Are there feathers, too?
     
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    "Vile" refers to your attack and implication of a fellow poster as "probably divorced" (which is the most heinous of sins in your book I've noticed). I am thankful that AVL is so gracious.

    If I were in this debate, I would not let your comments off so easily. [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
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    Actually, Doc, you ARE in this "debate", which I am not; presenting the Truth according to the Scripture is not a debate, but the ones who debate are in disagreement with the very Scripture.

    "Probably" carries the same conotations as "might be", as you know! (and of course the due reactions do have their suggested indications, quite readable/discernable, I might add)

    Just the same, accusing some one of "attacking fellow members" is construed as derogatory in intent, AND an attack on the very person it is aimed towards, YOU KNOW THAT, TOO!

    In the same regard, I can also deem your two previous posts as "attacks" on my person. [​IMG] [​IMG]

    And there are two rasberries in return, but they don't have any type of THREAT coupled along with their intent, but they do carry the full intention to razz the "Ol'Doc".

    But now, I have given ample time for those who are serious about the Word of God to research Deuteronomy 24 as has been referenced by some who think they know what the Word of God has to say concerning (divorce) of all things, when all the while this discussion is actually about "becoming one flesh" and making every effort to remain in Holy Matrimony! :D ;) [​IMG] ;) :D

    Now, the first mention of when a man has given his wife a bill of divorcement, the following phrase says "may go". That curiously goes along with what you suggest as some sort of rebuke towards my asking, by the word "probably"; meaning "might be", as in the wife who has been given this bill, "may go" and become another man's wife; the Hebrew NEVER granting permissiveness in that applicable context, nor grants the conotation neither. It simply means she "might go",as in depart, meaning she might go and sin,because she was unclean before the first marriage, then put to an open shame by her first HARDHEARTED husband, then even to further her shame, commits adultry by remarriage to another.

    The next time, I believe in Deut 24:4? or is 5? we find the word "may" in a completely different note, huh? meaning the right is granted.

    Check the Hebrew for yourselves, ye Hebrew Scholars and students alike, that is if ye dare, or do ye think thou mightest be reproved? Yes, REPROVED!!

    This should also give those Light in regards to Matthew 5:32, but I seriously doubt it will, for most of you, err, since Jesus clearly said, "Men rather love darkness, lest their deeds be reproved".

    But even the ideal that Jesus grants permisiveness against the very intstitution of Holy Matrimony, well.... GET A BIBLE and learn to read it!! Even the very verse ends all the previous action with SIN/Adultry!!!
     
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