Here told you can get a glass of beer with a shot. Then you will be dosed and drunk.
But for me there ain’t no forgetting. They killed my family and counted them collateral damage. They will kill yours too if you let them. I’m glad to see you have self-esteem. Tolerance and tolerant people are not to be trusted...you are tolerant of only those that can injure you, and so you placate them. Never do that. My mother refused to put my sister away... they could not cajole her, threaten her, ignore her, starve her, break her and they tried. Do you know what sustained her, it was the Lord and it was the gift of a loving family. And what taught me is to put your trust in the Father and that is what sustains me. God bless.