From http://www.crta.org/calvinism/ :
Unconditional Election is the doctrine which states that God chose those whom he was pleased to bring to a knowledge of himself, not based upon any merit shown by the object of his grace and not based upon his looking forward to discover who would "accept" the offer of the gospel. God has elected, based solely upon the counsel of his own will, some for glory and others for damnation (Romans 9:15,21). He has done this act before the foundations of the world (Ephesians 1:4-8).
This doctrine does not rule out, however, man's responsibility to believe in the redeeming work of God the Son (John 3:16-18). Scripture presents a tension between God's sovereignty in salvation, and man's responsibility to believe which it does not try to resolve. Both are true -- to deny man's responsibility is to affirm an unbiblical hyper-calvinism; to deny God's sovereignty is to affirm an unbiblical Arminianism.
This is one of my main problems with Calvinism, they proclaim that both of these statements must be true, yet it is impossible for them both to be true.
If God has elected some people to damnation then they can't be responsible for believing. In order to be responsible, one must be able to respond.
When non-Calvinists point out that one can not be held responsible for what they are not able or allowed to do, we are said to have misrepresented what they believe.From http://www.dictionary.com
re·spon·si·ble ( P ) Pronunciation Key (r-spns-bl)
adj.
Able to make moral or rational decisions on one's own and therefore answerable for one's behavior
Both of these can not be true. It defies not only the very definition of responsibility but the very character of a just God. Justice demands responsibility before a conviction can be made.
It would be like God saying in the OT that in order for sins to be forgiven one must sacrifice a waterballoogabasson. Of course there is no such creature as a waterballoogabasson so no one is ever forgiven of their sins. To say it is the fault of man for never sacrificing a waterballoogabasson is silly! They can't sacrifice what doesn't exist! If He were to make this creature only seen by some people, it still is unfair and unjust to hold those who can't see the waterbballoogabasson responsible for their inability to see it.
It would be unjust of God to demand something impossible. God has every right to send everyone to hell for sinning, that is true. However, to say that His mercy has allowed for them to be forgiven if they only believe is NOT merciful and just if he will not allow them the capability to do so. His justice would have been in tact if He would have just sent us ALL to hell. But when He sent His Son and said that if we believed in Him we would be saved, that is only just if we can all believe. Otherwise He could have just said that I am saving only those I wish. It would have been his right to do so. However, He clearly said that one must believe in Christ to receive that salvation, so not allowing everyone the capability to do so is not a just a thing to do.
~Lorelei