>>For a man to have a close friendship with a woman other than his own wife means that he is seeking fulfillment for needs which should be wholly and completely met by the woman that God gave him, and her alone.<<
I think I missed something here.
I had close male friends in highschool, as my husband had close female friends in highschool. So by your statement are we to abandon all friendships once we get married?
This, as with other things debated, seems to be a gray area. And in my opinion the Bible is very clear on it. The Bible says that IF a man/woman lusts in her heart it is as if it was actually done. I can have lunch with a male co-worker and NEVER have lust in my heart for him or him for me. So again, to me it comes down to someone else's judgement on a situation that they may "see" and assume the worst.
To me, I see it as, if I see someone I know who is married, having lunch with someone of the opposite sex who is not their spouse, it is wrong for me to jump to conclusions, and assume the worst. It could be any number of innocent situations, and without knowing the facts around it, it would be wrong of me to make any sort of judgements.