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Benjamin

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These people amaze me! To even imagine living that long boggles the mind. I really don't have any hope of getting anywhere near there but often dwell about what it would be like. I love talking them, hearing their stories and seeing what makes them keep ticking.

I am currently training a 98 year old who had pretty much given up on ever walking again after falling and breaking his hip last December. Up to that point he was independently living at home! From the start I could tell he was willing to work for it but feeling discouraged but told him that half the battle was over because of his determined attitude and I was looking forward to the challenge and that it gave me a chance to break me record of getting a 97 year old woman to walk again and told him of that story, I have to tell it here later.

I've been working with him for about month now and the starting out was rough. He refused to do the sitting down exercises because sitting down was not the goal we discussed. He wasn't buying my argument that he needed the strength to be able to stand before he could walk. But he does respect reasoning though and I told him in a sense I agreed with him as per what we call the SAID Principle (Specific Adaption to Imposed Demand) which is basically you train by specifically doing what you want to do - which in this case was standing and walking.

So, since he couldn't stand I picked him and held him up and kept him up as long as he could tolerate it, rest, and do it again. Second visit he stood with just my assistance and then I said, Great, now do you know how you learn to walk? and he said, How? and I said, One step at a time, so lets go, one step! He thought I was joking but I was serious. I pretty much carried him but he was so happy to say he took a step.

Long story short, he's accepted that I insist that he do a standing balance routine before he gets to do his walk and he improves every visit and walked 140' today on his own power! The quality of his life is so much better and it goes to show that if one has the mind and determination that you'er never too old. I really look forward to our visits, it is so fun and rewarding.
 

Benjamin

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My 97 year old patient’s first visit:

New Grumpy very elderly lady patient: I don’t know why you’re here, the last therapist made me hurt for days. I’m never getting out of this bed and I’m just waiting to die.

Me: Well, until that day I’d like to see if I can help you have a better quality of life. You have a lot of pain. Muscles and joints like it and feel better when they move and I promise I’ll keep it really simple and easy. Can we just try a little?

Grumpy patient: Maybe a little.

Me: Can you see at all or are you completely blind?

Grumpy patient: I can see there is a widow and I see a shadow of a body but I can’t see your face.

Me: Ah, that’s too bad because I’m really handsome!

New Smiley and very cooperative patient: Oh, I could tell…or at it least it sounds like you’re handsome.

Hahaha…

I still think about this patient and miss her. She was a southern gal with the accent and a strong faith and I loved her stories. She kept requesting to her Dr. to have more therapy with me and out of the norm the agency assigned me to her 3 times. We discovered because of the brightness of my phone that along with a dome magnifier glass she could see pictures, she was so excited about that! Imagine not being able to see any images for years – I’ve never had my pictures on my phone so appreciated before. To the surprise of many I had her walking again before the treatments ended...
 

just-want-peace

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My 97 year old patient’s first visit:

New Grumpy very elderly lady patient: I don’t know why you’re here, the last therapist made me hurt for days. I’m never getting out of this bed and I’m just waiting to die.

Me: Well, until that day I’d like to see if I can help you have a better quality of life. You have a lot of pain. Muscles and joints like it and feel better when they move and I promise I’ll keep it really simple and easy. Can we just try a little?

Grumpy patient: Maybe a little.

Me: Can you see at all or are you completely blind?

Grumpy patient: I can see there is a widow and I see a shadow of a body but I can’t see your face.

Me: Ah, that’s too bad because I’m really handsome!

New Smiley and very cooperative patient: Oh, I could tell…or at it least it sounds like you’re handsome.

Hahaha…

I still think about this patient and miss her. She was a southern gal with the accent and a strong faith and I loved her stories. She kept requesting to her Dr. to have more therapy with me and out of the norm the agency assigned me to her 3 times. We discovered because of the brightness of my phone that along with a dome magnifier glass she could see pictures, she was so excited about that! Imagine not being able to see any images for years – I’ve never had my pictures on my phone so appreciated before. To the surprise of many I had her walking again before the treatments ended...

You touch on one of my most cherished gifts from God -- HUMOR! I have about 100+ pages of jokes saved that I will bring up occasionally and laugh at again & again, until tears are streaming.
My daughter has concluded that my death will be from a burst vessel in my head from laughing so hard.
I'm convinced that ones life can/will be far more pleasant if HUMOR & GRATITUDE are incorporated into thanksgiving to HIM from the depths of our soul.:Laugh
 

RighteousnessTemperance&

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My 97 year old patient’s first visit:

New Grumpy very elderly lady patient: I don’t know why you’re here, the last therapist made me hurt for days. I’m never getting out of this bed and I’m just waiting to die.

Me: Well, until that day I’d like to see if I can help you have a better quality of life. You have a lot of pain. Muscles and joints like it and feel better when they move and I promise I’ll keep it really simple and easy. Can we just try a little?

Grumpy patient: Maybe a little.

Me: Can you see at all or are you completely blind?

Grumpy patient: I can see there is a widow and I see a shadow of a body but I can’t see your face.

Me: Ah, that’s too bad because I’m really handsome!

New Smiley and very cooperative patient: Oh, I could tell…or at it least it sounds like you’re handsome.

Hahaha…

I still think about this patient and miss her. She was a southern gal with the accent and a strong faith and I loved her stories. She kept requesting to her Dr. to have more therapy with me and out of the norm the agency assigned me to her 3 times. We discovered because of the brightness of my phone that along with a dome magnifier glass she could see pictures, she was so excited about that! Imagine not being able to see any images for years – I’ve never had my pictures on my phone so appreciated before. To the surprise of many I had her walking again before the treatments ended...
It's a gift. Glad to know you are using it so well.
 

Earth Wind and Fire

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These people amaze me! To even imagine living that long boggles the mind. I really don't have any hope of getting anywhere near there but often dwell about what it would be like. I love talking them, hearing their stories and seeing what makes them keep ticking.

I am currently training a 98 year old who had pretty much given up on ever walking again after falling and breaking his hip last December. Up to that point he was independently living at home! From the start I could tell he was willing to work for it but feeling discouraged but told him that half the battle was over because of his determined attitude and I was looking forward to the challenge and that it gave me a chance to break me record of getting a 97 year old woman to walk again and told him of that story, I have to tell it here later.

I've been working with him for about month now and the starting out was rough. He refused to do the sitting down exercises because sitting down was not the goal we discussed. He wasn't buying my argument that he needed the strength to be able to stand before he could walk. But he does respect reasoning though and I told him in a sense I agreed with him as per what we call the SAID Principle (Specific Adaption to Imposed Demand) which is basically you train by specifically doing what you want to do - which in this case was standing and walking.

So, since he couldn't stand I picked him and held him up and kept him up as long as he could tolerate it, rest, and do it again. Second visit he stood with just my assistance and then I said, Great, now do you know how you learn to walk? and he said, How? and I said, One step at a time, so lets go, one step! He thought I was joking but I was serious. I pretty much carried him but he was so happy to say he took a step.

Long story short, he's accepted that I insist that he do a standing balance routine before he gets to do his walk and he improves every visit and walked 140' today on his own power! The quality of his life is so much better and it goes to show that if one has the mind and determination that you'er never too old. I really look forward to our visits, it is so fun and rewarding.
God bless you... and keep up the good work:Thumbsup
 

Charles Perkins

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My wife and I are taking care of her mother here at home she is 97 going on 98 soon. Her health is great even though she has mid-stage dementia. She walks well though has a few balance issues at times.

As caregivers it can be quite challenging though. Nearly everyday she claims it is time to go home to her parents who have been dead nearly 70 years ( They died in China during the cultural revolution). Occasionally she talks about her husband running off with a women nobody know (he died about 10 years ago at about 92 years old). She has moments of clarity but one never knows when she will dream up something new or act out.

It is sad to see someone lose so many of their memories and start replacing them with delusions.
 

Benjamin

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As caregivers it can be quite challenging though. Nearly everyday she claims it is time to go home to her parents who have been dead nearly 70 years
I just went through a similar experience with my mom this year. For a couple years she worried about getting dementia and would say can't think anymore. Early this year she started calling me a lot and she would be crying and say, I can't think anymore. My sister had moved in with her and was taking care of her but it started to get to be too much for her as my mom's mind started shutting down. I started driving there most everyday to do transfers and stuff when she started losing her mobility while being desperate to keep her out of the hospital during this COVID plague.

It is sad to see someone lose so many of their memories and start replacing them with delusions.

It broke my heart to see my mom's mind quit working and knowing that everything physical would follow closely. I'd seen this type of shutting down before with my patients and I knew what was coming. It is sad to see an otherwise mobile and fairly healthy person deteriorate because of dementia. In the last weeks Mom started repeating herself over and over and the worst was her saying a list of numbers rather frantically thinking she was writing down my phone number for hours on end. At the end we called in Hospice Homecare and they were absolutely great and helped with a peaceful passing at home. Don't know how we would have done it and kept her out of the hospital without them.
 

Charles Perkins

Active Member
These people amaze me! To even imagine living that long boggles the mind. I really don't have any hope of getting anywhere near there but often dwell about what it would be like. I love talking them, hearing their stories and seeing what makes them keep ticking.

I am currently training a 98 year old who had pretty much given up on ever walking again after falling and breaking his hip last December. Up to that point he was independently living at home! From the start I could tell he was willing to work for it but feeling discouraged but told him that half the battle was over because of his determined attitude and I was looking forward to the challenge and that it gave me a chance to break me record of getting a 97 year old woman to walk again and told him of that story, I have to tell it here later.

I've been working with him for about month now and the starting out was rough. He refused to do the sitting down exercises because sitting down was not the goal we discussed. He wasn't buying my argument that he needed the strength to be able to stand before he could walk. But he does respect reasoning though and I told him in a sense I agreed with him as per what we call the SAID Principle (Specific Adaption to Imposed Demand) which is basically you train by specifically doing what you want to do - which in this case was standing and walking.

So, since he couldn't stand I picked him and held him up and kept him up as long as he could tolerate it, rest, and do it again. Second visit he stood with just my assistance and then I said, Great, now do you know how you learn to walk? and he said, How? and I said, One step at a time, so lets go, one step! He thought I was joking but I was serious. I pretty much carried him but he was so happy to say he took a step.

Long story short, he's accepted that I insist that he do a standing balance routine before he gets to do his walk and he improves every visit and walked 140' today on his own power! The quality of his life is so much better and it goes to show that if one has the mind and determination that you'er never too old. I really look forward to our visits, it is so fun and rewarding.


Having cared now for my wife's mother these last 10 years in our home, I am beginning to see that professional caregivers are amazing as well. It is challenging to work with those needing care especially when they are losing their faculties like with dementia.

Caregivers need amazing patience especially if they get involved with those they care for. I now understand better why doctors and nurses distance themselves from those they care for. At times it can be quite heart wrenching. So thanks for what you do as well. It is not an easy job, but it is a much needed occupation because there are so many of us baby boomers.
 

just-want-peace

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————Caregivers need amazing patience especially if they get involved with those they care for. I now understand better why doctors and nurses distance themselves from those they care for. At times it can be quite heart wrenching. So thanks for what you do as well. It is not an easy job, but it is a much needed occupation because there are so many of us baby boomers.

My wife is a retired RN, so I understand fully! She has, on occasion, gotten TOO emotionally attached with some of her patients & it definitely does cloud judgment. Kinda hard to avoid in some circumstances though.
 

Charles Perkins

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My wife is a retired RN, so I understand fully! She has, on occasion, gotten TOO emotionally attached with some of her patients & it definitely does cloud judgment. Kinda hard to avoid in some circumstances though.

I think there is a need for balance. That is a tall order though and I respect anyone that can do it.

Patients are like all the rest of us. Besides the physical sickness there maybe emotional or spiritual needs. Detaching from this a natural defense, but may or may not be helpful. We live in a world that treating the whole person may be unwise at most times, a large demand for anyone, and extremely difficult at best.
 
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