Children

Christine, then you know. It's so emotionally devestating isn't it?

Yes, I saw a doctor each time. They didn't want to do any tests until I had the 3rd miscarriage. They said that it was common for woman to have up to two miscarriages, and that if I had 3 they would look into it. They didn't find anything, but said almost exactly the same thing to me as your doctor said to you for a reason that this could have happened.

When I got pregnant with my last daughter, the doctors wanted to do chromosome tests to see if their were any flaws that would cause any defects. They were running some tests anyway because of my history and because of my age at the time. My chromosomes are completely normal. It's funny how much doctors flip out when a woman conceives after she's 35 years old. My oldest child would have been 24 this year. Hard to imagine.

In Christ,
Laurenda

 

Not only do I believe God has control over the children we have, I also believe He already has everything planed. He told John the Baptist's parents that their child would be used by Him before they even knew they would have him, and Abraham was told that his son would be the father of a great nation. God knows from the beginning.
He knew about me before I even existed. And even more precious is that He prayed for me!
John 20:17

Larenda, I'm sorry you went through that. My pastor's daughter is going through that. She's lost four and has yet to have one that lived.
Doctors {two of em said the same thing} said I might have complications with having kids, and boy was I upset. I've wanted a big family for so long, and I was sure no guy would ever want to marry a girl who may not be able to give him children. But you know what? I don't worry about it now. That's in God's hands. Whatever happens. God knows best, and HE can defye, {er however it's spelled!} any doctor no matter what they think. And even if He dosn't, I still serve the greatest and only true God! My Lord has blessed me so much already, and I know I'm certianly not worthy.
Whoever siad sexual intercourse was nessicery to have a baby, how do explain Christ's birth? Mary was a virgin. Now I do realize that was a special case, but my point is, nothing is too hard for God.
IMHO,
Abby

 

Your right Abby...and I believe that too.

Laurenda

 

This is a good topic. Maybe I can get advice from you guys.
My hubbie and I had 3 children. After the twins were born in 2001, I talked him into a vasectomy about 4 months after the twins were born. We were not going to church at the time and NOT seprated from the world so to speak but we were saved. Our twin daughter died from the inner lift cord on a set of window blinds that were in the house when we bought it. I thought I had the whole place all safe. I had tied up the pull cords and everything.
Now that our daughter is gone, and we are back in God's will and on the narrow way, I feel so guilty for stopping what God told us to do. I don't know if I am being convicted to have more children because I lost my daughter or I am really guitly for this and God wants us to keep reproducing. What are your thoughts? How do i know for sure what is right and how to base all of this? Is birth control biblically sound???????
DD

 

Hi Dinky-Doo,

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.

As for your question about birth control being biblical......you are probably going to get a lot of different answers to that question. I can only tell you my beliefs.

After our third child was born and at the age of 23, I had a tubal ligation. My husband and I weren't saved at the time, and we did the tubal for all the wrong reasons, mainly financial.

A couple of years later we were both saved (PTL!) and attending a good church. We both realised we had made a mistake. Well a few years after that, we had finally saved enough money and located a Christian Dr, so I had a reversal done. We now have two precious little boys added to our family.

All this was to say that I believe God should be trusted with the size of a Christian family and to me that means no birth control. He sends the little ones He wants us to have and I believe, the means for us to care for them.

If you are interested, I know the name of a Christian Dr who does vas reversals as a ministry. He is very skilled and, because he sees it as a ministry, keeps the price very low. Most insurance companies will not cover any type of reversal surgery, and most Dr's charge thousands.

God bless you and your family.

 

I'm so sorry DInky Doo that you had to go through that. I couldn't imagine losing a child, yet God gives grace for the trial when we need it. No I don't think birht control is right. God is the one in control {or should be!} of our lives. He knows the financial needs, physical needs, so on and so forth. He can provide whatever is needed, whenever it's needed. We serve a great God. Don't ever under estamate Him.
I think children are a precious gift from God. {Although on some days, you parents may not quite think that! } But none the less, the trials, the pain, all that goes into raising a child is worth it all when they say they love you, or when they give you a sloppy kiss, and a wilted flower. When they grow up and make you proud. It's then I think parents remember the grief and burdens of raising those kids and can say "God helped, gave me the grace to bear it all, and He's blessed me immensly."
And Dinky Doo, I'm don't understand all of God's ways. I do wish {even though I've never met you} that God had sparred your little girl, but I do know that GOd's will is perfect. I think maybe sometimes it takes something like that to get our attention. But you know what? Your precious little one is in Heaven now waiting for you. That's a consolation some parents who have grown, and unsaved children don't have if they die. You've not said "good bye forever," you've said "good bye for a little while, I'll see you again."
IMHO,
~Abby

 

Thanks Abby-
Because I have decided to stay in God's will and not allow the devil to win, God has blessed us with many reasons why our daughter had to go. Over 20 people have been saved because of her death. Her death affect thousands that I never knew would. I truly belive that if you stay in God's will and serve him and lean on him thru hard times he will provide the answers you need. You just have to see things through God's or heavens eyes. Most people don't try and look at life thru God's eyes.
Anyway thanks.
I am still praying about it and wondering.
Where is the DOC at MOMOFIVE?
DD

 

I always wanted 4 children but my husband felt led by God to have a vasectomy after our third child was born 15 months after our second child (and I had never stopped breast feeding). I submitted to his wisdom and guidance and never regretted it. However, in 1994, our daughter (who was 19 at the time) gave birth to a precious baby boy and chose not to keep him. We adopted him and God gave me my 4th child! Not only that... but Nick came at a wonderful time in our lives. All our children were basically grown (24, 19, 18) and I was always meant to be a wife and mother. I do not think I would have tolerated an empty nest! Now I'm 52 with an 8 year old. I home school him and we spend every waking minute together. I could not have asked for a more wonderful gift. Oh.. and he was born on my birthday!

I DO still believe that we were meant to stop having children when we did. Our quiver was full and we could not afford more. I was very fertile and had no trouble conceiving or carrying babies. I can just imagine that I'd have had 10 before I wore out! LOL.

Diane

p.s. Way to go Johnv. My husband made the choice back in 1978 when most men were running the other way!

 

To Laurenda and the other parents who lost babies... Our son and daughter in law lost a baby at 7 weeks in the womb. They don't mention the baby and don't want to be reminded of that loss. I have a gold charm bracelet with my mom and grandmother type things on it. I bought myself a little angel in remembrance of that grandbaby waiting for me in heaven and I always include that baby when people ask about children and grandchildren.

I'm sorry for your loss. I can only imagine your pain and loss.

In His love,
Diane

 

To answer this one concerning myself-- yes, I do believe the Lord chose the size of my family! I am a family of one, until (or, if) God decides to bring to me a wife.

 

Hi Dinky-Do,

His name is Dr. Cary Leverett and he's located in New Braunfels, TX (Just outside of San Antonio). People travel from all over the country to have a reversal by him and, from what I have heard, his expertise is well worth the trip. He even fixes botched reversals done by other Dr's. He has a website too with lots of testimonies of families that have gone to him. Best of all....he's a Christian.

Dr. Leveretts website

 

God choose two children for my wife and me and my children have chosen four grandsons. WOW!

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