I just cant understand how calvinists can hold things together in light of scriptures like...
For it is not Gods will that any should perish, but that all would come to repentance
Even when I was a calvinist, it bothered me.
It is possible that the verse doesn't mean what many assume it to mean.
Who is the "any" that God is not willing to perish? Who is the "all" that God wills to come to repentance?
Whatever theological construct one operates under, we know from the text of scripture that not everyone will be saved--there will be sheep and there will be goats.
We also know that God is not a hand-wringing pleader simply begging us to believe by saying, "Believe in me, or I'll say 'believe' again."
Those to whom Peter was writing is the audience here. So, to the church Peter says:
The Lord...is patient toward you (all).
The patience of God while He gives call after call to repentance is easily demonstrable in scripture. God is indeed patient; He puts up with much.
In this case, Peter is relating the Lord's patience in bringing about the consummation of the age and the final judgment.
One negative reason that Peter gives to the church is this:
Not wishing that any should perish
The positive parallel follows:
But that all should reach repentance
Who is the "any?" Is it any birds, fish, Volkswagons, or Martians? No. It is likely any of those to whom Peter is writing. Likewise, the "all" is likely the ones to whom Peter is writing.
This illustrates for us, in addition to other things, that there are sheep and goats in the church (Jesus Himself makes this quite clear). God is patient even while calling the goats to repentance--and it doesn't matter if they are goats inside the church or outside the church.
Even so, no goat becomes a sheep without a radical, God-wrought transformation that changes the very DNA of the goat. This is how rebels become loyal sons of the King.
The Archangel